It's a year since I went to New Orleans, one of my most favorite spots in this country to relax and play. After the hurricane, I looked for ways to get back...and I am headed to do some good service work there with the Rotary...but until I get there, I will get my NOLA fix on 45th Street...Zydeco dancing!
At Connolly's..a good Irish Bar...a group of experienced and newbie dancers gathered to hear an amazing Zydeco band and to dance until Midnight...now in NOLA things would just be heating up at that hour!!!
But thanks to my friend Adelle who put out the word, I was able to enjoy an evening learning the Cajun Waltz...with my friends Andy and Ivi, we took our turns on the floor doing our Zydeco thing! It was the most welcoming dance floor in the city, I am sure. Another chance awaits us on June 18th!
And now if I only could find a place for Cajun rice and beans!!!
Sunday, June 04, 2006
The New York MINIT: Inviting Connectivity in Social Networking
Jump In!
As my own message on the previous page illustrates, connectivity abounds as you network in the New York MINIT for your IM hours. Jump in! Find the joy in connecting with others. Use those social moments to build communication and connection. For the more timid communicator, this book may be a part of an action plan to create the 24/7 networker. For others, communication comes naturally and you want to improve your skill. No matter who you are, keep your eye on the prize: communication success! This will lead to your reach your own particular goal. With that in mind let’s jump right in!
How do you live IM connectivity?
• Use a network of new friends and established friends and mix the two together. The interesting person you spoke with at the coffee shop in the morning could be an invitee to a gathering of established friends that evening.
• Use the key words you established in your network challenge and study them during your work week. Choose a behavior and work it on the social scene after you’ve practiced it in your work day…these skills transfer. And they do so with fun in the IM hours on the social scene. Even a “playful” skill at work, which may not be used much or appreciated, is perfect for developing for the social scene.
• Keep in mind the “joining” principal discussed earlier…get out there and meet people. Go online and play poker with a group, join a list serve, go on an online dating site, volunteer, join a church or synagogue become a member of the zoo, or a museum, even do your clothes in a Laundromat in a great part of town! Get your own network going so that you can continually blend connections with the people you meet and create new networking links!
Rapport Skills on the Social Scene
You are using your Connectivity skills from PM and AM when you build your IM Towers in New York MINIT. The good news is while networking in the social scene the pace is more comfortable and fun. Try to avoid the “take no prisoners” approach that you use at a networking event! When you build social rapport, it’s done easily and in an open, welcoming way. Take your time! And despite my introduction…I love that pace of inviting connection even if seems a bit frantic every now and then.
Tools of the Social LIGHT Trade
• Eye contact is still very important in the social hours of IM communication. Of course you have to be ready to change gears often as you mingle. Meeting men and woman together often requires that you shift eye contact style. In the IM hours you still have the same need for strong eye contact when hanging out and meeting new friends. More neutral eye contact socially is still welcoming when being introduced for the first time, but it can be friendly and welcoming. When going out on your own and you are meeting people without being in a group, keep in mind that new people make impressions of you quickly. Your eyes can say a lot about how confident you are and this confidence invites connectivity. Look at people!
• Keep body language in mind even on the social scene. A tall confident stance, the ability to move around the room and chat while making eye contact is important. Be direct when introducing yourself and try to use the tricks discussed in Volume One to remember people’s names!
• Use space to your advantage by moving around and connecting with people. Don’t stay in one place, even if you are with a partner, break away from time to time and move together so people see you in different ways, on your own or as part of a pair.
Be the Catalyst!
• Planning for connectivity can be daunting on the social scene. But simply take the plunge. Use your skills from the workplace to organize your social occasions. Getting people together purposefully will help you to be seen as a “go to” person. If you don’t like to put evening or weekend activities together, come up with an idea and do what you do on the job…delegate! You can work with someone to bring a group together so it’s not all on your shoulders.
• The natural gathering patterns of the social IM hours at restaurants, clubs, gyms can seem overwhelming to engineer as a networker. Be an organizer. Take charge and bring people together or collaborate with others to do it.. Use emails, e-vites, electronic boards to help you set the scene for networking in the IM hours. Be decisive and know what you want to offer people for a social activity. Make sure it’s clear about when it starts, and who is welcomed to come. It may seem a bit formal, but once people gather the informality takes over and everyone will thank you for bringing people together, old and new friends who can share their connectivity with you and each other.
• Use your communication skills to show initiative when people get bogged down with deciding about an evening. For instance, If you are out with the group, be the facilitator. You don’t have to be a tour guide waving a little flag. You can speak up with an approachable open voice and try to get people “unstuck “ so the good times can continue to roll…” Use good conversation stems like.. “I’m not sure we are all clear about…” or “Maybe let’s all look at it this way…” Or get others to agree on next steps…” Let’s have X call the restaurant down the street and Y call the one around the corner to see if we can get a table.” Believe me, people want to be led in social situations and are glad to give someone the power. Take it! You can be as smooth as you schmooze as you are in a meeting at the office!
• Keep in mind the need for face to face contact as you build your social network. Electronic means of staying in touch support the network, but do not replace getting face to face with people regularly.
As my own message on the previous page illustrates, connectivity abounds as you network in the New York MINIT for your IM hours. Jump in! Find the joy in connecting with others. Use those social moments to build communication and connection. For the more timid communicator, this book may be a part of an action plan to create the 24/7 networker. For others, communication comes naturally and you want to improve your skill. No matter who you are, keep your eye on the prize: communication success! This will lead to your reach your own particular goal. With that in mind let’s jump right in!
How do you live IM connectivity?
• Use a network of new friends and established friends and mix the two together. The interesting person you spoke with at the coffee shop in the morning could be an invitee to a gathering of established friends that evening.
• Use the key words you established in your network challenge and study them during your work week. Choose a behavior and work it on the social scene after you’ve practiced it in your work day…these skills transfer. And they do so with fun in the IM hours on the social scene. Even a “playful” skill at work, which may not be used much or appreciated, is perfect for developing for the social scene.
• Keep in mind the “joining” principal discussed earlier…get out there and meet people. Go online and play poker with a group, join a list serve, go on an online dating site, volunteer, join a church or synagogue become a member of the zoo, or a museum, even do your clothes in a Laundromat in a great part of town! Get your own network going so that you can continually blend connections with the people you meet and create new networking links!
Rapport Skills on the Social Scene
You are using your Connectivity skills from PM and AM when you build your IM Towers in New York MINIT. The good news is while networking in the social scene the pace is more comfortable and fun. Try to avoid the “take no prisoners” approach that you use at a networking event! When you build social rapport, it’s done easily and in an open, welcoming way. Take your time! And despite my introduction…I love that pace of inviting connection even if seems a bit frantic every now and then.
Tools of the Social LIGHT Trade
• Eye contact is still very important in the social hours of IM communication. Of course you have to be ready to change gears often as you mingle. Meeting men and woman together often requires that you shift eye contact style. In the IM hours you still have the same need for strong eye contact when hanging out and meeting new friends. More neutral eye contact socially is still welcoming when being introduced for the first time, but it can be friendly and welcoming. When going out on your own and you are meeting people without being in a group, keep in mind that new people make impressions of you quickly. Your eyes can say a lot about how confident you are and this confidence invites connectivity. Look at people!
• Keep body language in mind even on the social scene. A tall confident stance, the ability to move around the room and chat while making eye contact is important. Be direct when introducing yourself and try to use the tricks discussed in Volume One to remember people’s names!
• Use space to your advantage by moving around and connecting with people. Don’t stay in one place, even if you are with a partner, break away from time to time and move together so people see you in different ways, on your own or as part of a pair.
Be the Catalyst!
• Planning for connectivity can be daunting on the social scene. But simply take the plunge. Use your skills from the workplace to organize your social occasions. Getting people together purposefully will help you to be seen as a “go to” person. If you don’t like to put evening or weekend activities together, come up with an idea and do what you do on the job…delegate! You can work with someone to bring a group together so it’s not all on your shoulders.
• The natural gathering patterns of the social IM hours at restaurants, clubs, gyms can seem overwhelming to engineer as a networker. Be an organizer. Take charge and bring people together or collaborate with others to do it.. Use emails, e-vites, electronic boards to help you set the scene for networking in the IM hours. Be decisive and know what you want to offer people for a social activity. Make sure it’s clear about when it starts, and who is welcomed to come. It may seem a bit formal, but once people gather the informality takes over and everyone will thank you for bringing people together, old and new friends who can share their connectivity with you and each other.
• Use your communication skills to show initiative when people get bogged down with deciding about an evening. For instance, If you are out with the group, be the facilitator. You don’t have to be a tour guide waving a little flag. You can speak up with an approachable open voice and try to get people “unstuck “ so the good times can continue to roll…” Use good conversation stems like.. “I’m not sure we are all clear about…” or “Maybe let’s all look at it this way…” Or get others to agree on next steps…” Let’s have X call the restaurant down the street and Y call the one around the corner to see if we can get a table.” Believe me, people want to be led in social situations and are glad to give someone the power. Take it! You can be as smooth as you schmooze as you are in a meeting at the office!
• Keep in mind the need for face to face contact as you build your social network. Electronic means of staying in touch support the network, but do not replace getting face to face with people regularly.
Wednesday, May 17, 2006
Why Don't They listen? Rotary Speech
My topic today is listening....I am a member of the International Listening Association...really. There is such an organization. So theser's some credibility for you!
Why did I join? because over the years I began to see the value of listening in my own personal and professional life. I think having children really did it for me...got me into listening....because as my babies grew I kept thinking..."Why Don't They Listen?"
Have you ever felt that in you personal life? Think for a moment about an instance when you've felt that in your personal life.
Now think about your workplace...do people trult listen there? Do the same thing. Think of something that shows you people don't listen in their jobs.
You are probably seeing similar examples of people who do the following:
Have short attention
Can't stop interupting
seem to talk about themselves even after you've talked.
Well,,,,it's a national epidemic...the lack of listening...and there are theories aboout why it is getting worse...and it's generational...people did seem to listen better 40 years ago. I will give you reasons why in this short talk and give you one or two ways to help yourself as a listener.
We must first go beyond hearing...listening is processing...and the generations now process differently.
Research today paints a bleak picture for the growth of listening...technology is wonderful but it can be a challenge to listening...here are a few facts...
18,000 hours of TV logged
Average span of attention...90 sec.
Added persoanal inofrmation
Phone numbers for a family of three... email rather than talk...phne from inside the house. or outside...grocereis..
check email before coffee!
Why did I join? because over the years I began to see the value of listening in my own personal and professional life. I think having children really did it for me...got me into listening....because as my babies grew I kept thinking..."Why Don't They Listen?"
Have you ever felt that in you personal life? Think for a moment about an instance when you've felt that in your personal life.
Now think about your workplace...do people trult listen there? Do the same thing. Think of something that shows you people don't listen in their jobs.
You are probably seeing similar examples of people who do the following:
Have short attention
Can't stop interupting
seem to talk about themselves even after you've talked.
Well,,,,it's a national epidemic...the lack of listening...and there are theories aboout why it is getting worse...and it's generational...people did seem to listen better 40 years ago. I will give you reasons why in this short talk and give you one or two ways to help yourself as a listener.
We must first go beyond hearing...listening is processing...and the generations now process differently.
Research today paints a bleak picture for the growth of listening...technology is wonderful but it can be a challenge to listening...here are a few facts...
18,000 hours of TV logged
Average span of attention...90 sec.
Added persoanal inofrmation
Phone numbers for a family of three... email rather than talk...phne from inside the house. or outside...grocereis..
check email before coffee!
Toastmasters #2 Speech...Gimme an M
Mr. Toastmaster, fellow SEC Roughriders and Honored Guests
Since coming to Toastmastes I have learned to value ....The Pause.....and The value in revealing yourself to you audience.
Today I atttempt .....BOTH....as I reveal something to you that few people...specially buiness people know about me....
I was a teenaged......CHEERLEADER,,,rah rah!
but I was awful...couldn't cut it and my career was over in a NY Minute!!!
And Today standing here in these minutes with you in NY,,,,I wish I had been better as a Cheerleader. NOW I HAVE SOMETHING TO CHEER ABOUT!
And ...it's not a basketball star...or a football hero....it's me...and what I want to Cheer about is my own soon to be trademarked concept for Business Success...The New YORK MINIT...Minit!
Ok..you're thinking...not only is she bad a cheeleading...her spelling is awful...MINIT? What's up with that?
Welll..that's my unique acronym for business communication success that I am branding and selling in books, keynotes and workshops...I want to give you a few seconds today with my NY MINIT!
And you say...TRISH..."What makes you think you are an expert in Business Communication and Networking Skills?
Let me tell you my story ...judge for yourself...
I came to NYC last year....Only my doorman knew my name.
I knew no one...nada Oh...excuse me I am learning spanish and I am trying to use it in as many ways as I can...part of multi tasking...
Againnn
I knew nobody..nada
I needed to make Money...dinero...si?
I needed friends...amigos...
I needed dimero...
I needed good work trabajo...
I needed dinero...
and I stand here today telling you I have hit the mark in this city in a year...and my framework for doing it is the New York Minute...if you give me a few of your own, I'll explain as I cheer with you about the Big Idea behind the NY MINIT...ready?
Gimme an M....M meaans make connections and Meaning as you begin to network...I can teach you a few skills to help you be solid in a boardroom or on a convention floor...in a new york minute.
Gimme an I...I means Invite connectivity through your rapport skils, eye contact...body language and questions...I can teach yu to do this skillfully...in a New York Minute.
Gimme a N...N means Nice Work...you must show you are a great communicator by being quiet....listen to others nice work...I can teach you how...in a new York Minute.
Gimme an I...I means that It's my Pleasure,,,now you can talk in business but make it tight and make it defined... I can teach you how to talk in business settings...in a New York Minute.
And T means that's a Wrap/RAP... I can teach you to talk your way to a perfect end to close a conversation, a phone call or a deal!...and do it in a NY Minute!
Want to learn more?
I have many minutes to share!
Since coming to Toastmastes I have learned to value ....The Pause.....and The value in revealing yourself to you audience.
Today I atttempt .....BOTH....as I reveal something to you that few people...specially buiness people know about me....
I was a teenaged......CHEERLEADER,,,rah rah!
but I was awful...couldn't cut it and my career was over in a NY Minute!!!
And Today standing here in these minutes with you in NY,,,,I wish I had been better as a Cheerleader. NOW I HAVE SOMETHING TO CHEER ABOUT!
And ...it's not a basketball star...or a football hero....it's me...and what I want to Cheer about is my own soon to be trademarked concept for Business Success...The New YORK MINIT...Minit!
Ok..you're thinking...not only is she bad a cheeleading...her spelling is awful...MINIT? What's up with that?
Welll..that's my unique acronym for business communication success that I am branding and selling in books, keynotes and workshops...I want to give you a few seconds today with my NY MINIT!
And you say...TRISH..."What makes you think you are an expert in Business Communication and Networking Skills?
Let me tell you my story ...judge for yourself...
I came to NYC last year....Only my doorman knew my name.
I knew no one...nada Oh...excuse me I am learning spanish and I am trying to use it in as many ways as I can...part of multi tasking...
Againnn
I knew nobody..nada
I needed to make Money...dinero...si?
I needed friends...amigos...
I needed dimero...
I needed good work trabajo...
I needed dinero...
and I stand here today telling you I have hit the mark in this city in a year...and my framework for doing it is the New York Minute...if you give me a few of your own, I'll explain as I cheer with you about the Big Idea behind the NY MINIT...ready?
Gimme an M....M meaans make connections and Meaning as you begin to network...I can teach you a few skills to help you be solid in a boardroom or on a convention floor...in a new york minute.
Gimme an I...I means Invite connectivity through your rapport skils, eye contact...body language and questions...I can teach yu to do this skillfully...in a New York Minute.
Gimme a N...N means Nice Work...you must show you are a great communicator by being quiet....listen to others nice work...I can teach you how...in a new York Minute.
Gimme an I...I means that It's my Pleasure,,,now you can talk in business but make it tight and make it defined... I can teach you how to talk in business settings...in a New York Minute.
And T means that's a Wrap/RAP... I can teach you to talk your way to a perfect end to close a conversation, a phone call or a deal!...and do it in a NY Minute!
Want to learn more?
I have many minutes to share!
Gimme an M! The New York MINIT for the Workplace
Gimme an M!
As in the first Volume, the acronym of the New York MINIT will help to place you in a power position as the architect of your emerging unique communications skyline!
As you prepare to read about these AM workplace tools and as you get ready to practice with the AM Networking Challenges, keep focused on being your absolute best....a minute spent in NYC is full of Possibility, Passion and Promise...bring that attitude with you as you create your new business skyline every day!
Gimme an M...The M in the MINIT is for.........Make Connections: Ways to Develop Meaningful Data that builds Confidence
Gimme an I.....The I in the MINIT is for...........Invite Connectivity; Ways to Become the Must Know Person in an Organization
Gimme an N....The N in the MINIT is for..........Nice Work: Ways to Create Geniune on the Job Trust
Gimme an I......The I in the MINIT is for...........It's My Pleasure: Ways to Spread the Word about Who and What you Do
Gimme a T.......The T in the MINIT is for.........That's a Wrap/Rap: Ways to Close and Follow-u that Get you Noticed
As in the first Volume, the acronym of the New York MINIT will help to place you in a power position as the architect of your emerging unique communications skyline!
As you prepare to read about these AM workplace tools and as you get ready to practice with the AM Networking Challenges, keep focused on being your absolute best....a minute spent in NYC is full of Possibility, Passion and Promise...bring that attitude with you as you create your new business skyline every day!
Gimme an M...The M in the MINIT is for.........Make Connections: Ways to Develop Meaningful Data that builds Confidence
Gimme an I.....The I in the MINIT is for...........Invite Connectivity; Ways to Become the Must Know Person in an Organization
Gimme an N....The N in the MINIT is for..........Nice Work: Ways to Create Geniune on the Job Trust
Gimme an I......The I in the MINIT is for...........It's My Pleasure: Ways to Spread the Word about Who and What you Do
Gimme a T.......The T in the MINIT is for.........That's a Wrap/Rap: Ways to Close and Follow-u that Get you Noticed
Gimme an M! The New York MINIT for the Workplace
Gimme an M!
As in the first Volume, the acronym of the New York MINIT will help to place you in a power position as the architect of your emerging unique communications skyline!
As you prepare to read about these AM workplace tools and as you get ready to practice with the AM Networking Challenges, keep focused on being your absolute best....a minute spent in NYC is full of Possibility, Passion and Promise...bring that attitude with you as you create your new business skyline every day!
Gimme an M...The M in the MINIT is for.........Make Connections: Ways to Develop Meaningful Data that builds Confidence
Gimme an I.....The I in the MINIT is for...........Invite Connectivity; Ways to Become the Must Know Person in an Organization
Gimme an N....The N in the MINIT is for..........Nice Work: Ways to Create Geniune on the Job Trust
Gimme an I......The I in the MINIT is for...........It's My Pleasure: Ways to Spread the Word about Who and What you Do
Gimme a T.......The T in the MINIT is for.........That's a Wrap/Rap: Ways to Close and Follow-u that Get you Noticed
As in the first Volume, the acronym of the New York MINIT will help to place you in a power position as the architect of your emerging unique communications skyline!
As you prepare to read about these AM workplace tools and as you get ready to practice with the AM Networking Challenges, keep focused on being your absolute best....a minute spent in NYC is full of Possibility, Passion and Promise...bring that attitude with you as you create your new business skyline every day!
Gimme an M...The M in the MINIT is for.........Make Connections: Ways to Develop Meaningful Data that builds Confidence
Gimme an I.....The I in the MINIT is for...........Invite Connectivity; Ways to Become the Must Know Person in an Organization
Gimme an N....The N in the MINIT is for..........Nice Work: Ways to Create Geniune on the Job Trust
Gimme an I......The I in the MINIT is for...........It's My Pleasure: Ways to Spread the Word about Who and What you Do
Gimme a T.......The T in the MINIT is for.........That's a Wrap/Rap: Ways to Close and Follow-u that Get you Noticed
The New York MINIT in the Workplace: A Guide to BIG talk in Small Rooms!
So...one book wasn't enough for you,kid? Great!
I am hoping that you have used the skills from the first Volume of the New York Minute, "The Little Guide to Big City Networking", to sharpen yourself as a fluid, comfortable networker. Your calendar is now sprinkled with just the right balance of morning networking breakfasts, power lunches and after hours cocktail events where you have found a niche group to court!
Now turn your attention to the workplace. You can network there, but your networking takes on a different face. You are no longer looking to get business as you do in the PM hours...you are learning to be a high level communicator, someone who can be seen as a trusted,GO TO person. The Goal of this Guide is to give you the tools that help build a genuine, unique repertoire of skills that not only help you help you communicate on the job but to manage your communication for great career results.
And it doesn't matter where you are.... in a large or small company,,,in the USA or the UK, you can adopt the same savvy New York MINIT model that was usd in Volume ONE.
In the Workplace edition of this New York MINIT Guide, you'll Follow the familiar framework as it propels you to success on the job!
Build your AM Towers
As in the first book, I invite the image of a unique skyline that you build that reflects who you are in your development as a Business Communicator. If you've read the first Volume of The New York Minute you will have build strong, showplace PM towers based upon your networking skill. In the AM Workplace design...your communication towers are not as grand, but there are MANY and they are consistent and familiar looking towers in your skyline, The more AM tools you refine,,,the bigger your skyline! The MINIT framework can help you shine in your office!
I am hoping that you have used the skills from the first Volume of the New York Minute, "The Little Guide to Big City Networking", to sharpen yourself as a fluid, comfortable networker. Your calendar is now sprinkled with just the right balance of morning networking breakfasts, power lunches and after hours cocktail events where you have found a niche group to court!
Now turn your attention to the workplace. You can network there, but your networking takes on a different face. You are no longer looking to get business as you do in the PM hours...you are learning to be a high level communicator, someone who can be seen as a trusted,GO TO person. The Goal of this Guide is to give you the tools that help build a genuine, unique repertoire of skills that not only help you help you communicate on the job but to manage your communication for great career results.
And it doesn't matter where you are.... in a large or small company,,,in the USA or the UK, you can adopt the same savvy New York MINIT model that was usd in Volume ONE.
In the Workplace edition of this New York MINIT Guide, you'll Follow the familiar framework as it propels you to success on the job!
Build your AM Towers
As in the first book, I invite the image of a unique skyline that you build that reflects who you are in your development as a Business Communicator. If you've read the first Volume of The New York Minute you will have build strong, showplace PM towers based upon your networking skill. In the AM Workplace design...your communication towers are not as grand, but there are MANY and they are consistent and familiar looking towers in your skyline, The more AM tools you refine,,,the bigger your skyline! The MINIT framework can help you shine in your office!
The New York MINIT in the Workplace: A Guide to BIG talk in Small Rooms!
So...one book wasn't enough for you,kid? Great!
I am hoping that you have used the skills from the first Volume of the New York Minute, "The Little Guide to Big City Networking", to sharpen yourself as a fluid, comfortable networker. Your calendar is now sprinkled with just the right balance of morning networking breakfasts, power lunches and after hours cocktail events where you have found a niche group to court!
Now turn your attention to the workplace. You can network there, but your networking takes on a different face. You are no longer looking to get business as you do in the PM hours...you are learning to be a high level communicator, someone who can be seen as a trusted,GO TO person. The Goal of this Guide is to give you the tools that help build a genuine, unique repertoire of skills that not only help you help you communicate on the job but to manage your communication for great career results.
And it doesn't matter where you are.... in a large or small company,,,in the USA or the UK, you can adopt the same savvy New York MINIT model that was usd in Volume ONE.
In the Workplace edition of this New York MINIT Guide, you'll Follow the familiar framework as it propels you to success on the job!
Build your AM Towers
As in the first book, I invite the image of a unique skyline that you build that reflects who you are in your development as a Business Communicator. If you've read the first Volume of The New York Minute you will have build strong, showplace PM towers based upon your networking skill. In the AM Workplace design...your communication towers are not as grand, but there are MANY and they are consistent and familiar looking towers in your skyline, The more AM tools you refine,,,the bigger your skyline! The MINIT framework can help you shine in your office!
I am hoping that you have used the skills from the first Volume of the New York Minute, "The Little Guide to Big City Networking", to sharpen yourself as a fluid, comfortable networker. Your calendar is now sprinkled with just the right balance of morning networking breakfasts, power lunches and after hours cocktail events where you have found a niche group to court!
Now turn your attention to the workplace. You can network there, but your networking takes on a different face. You are no longer looking to get business as you do in the PM hours...you are learning to be a high level communicator, someone who can be seen as a trusted,GO TO person. The Goal of this Guide is to give you the tools that help build a genuine, unique repertoire of skills that not only help you help you communicate on the job but to manage your communication for great career results.
And it doesn't matter where you are.... in a large or small company,,,in the USA or the UK, you can adopt the same savvy New York MINIT model that was usd in Volume ONE.
In the Workplace edition of this New York MINIT Guide, you'll Follow the familiar framework as it propels you to success on the job!
Build your AM Towers
As in the first book, I invite the image of a unique skyline that you build that reflects who you are in your development as a Business Communicator. If you've read the first Volume of The New York Minute you will have build strong, showplace PM towers based upon your networking skill. In the AM Workplace design...your communication towers are not as grand, but there are MANY and they are consistent and familiar looking towers in your skyline, The more AM tools you refine,,,the bigger your skyline! The MINIT framework can help you shine in your office!
Wednesday, May 10, 2006
The New York M.I.N.I.T.: AM Power Towers for Inviting Connections at your Office
The brilliant after hours networker has to "roost" somewhere...and it's in the office! An office homebase provides the networker endless opportunity for consistent practice as she communicates with others through rapport building for results. The results are different in the office networking game. You are building good currency that is abstract,not concrete. Eventually your AM networking moves may bring you the promotion and salary you deserve, but until then, you'll build good currency with your colleagues and learn how to connect confidently with people.That's priceless.
The office is the perfect spot to refine your New York M.I.N.I.T. moves. And with any luck, you are "among friends",not strangers at work who will welcome your efforts. If you feel like you are surrounded by strangers who won't "play"...keep pushing yourself through any feeling of rejection since you'll have to bear that in PM moments with total starngers! But if it persists, I'd be on Craig's List looking for a new job!
So let's revisit "I" in the New York M.I.N.I.T...Inviting Connectivity!
Now these are your AM moves for the office,and there are similarities and differences in the connectivity you establish outside of your office and in the workplace when you work to make connections.Connections happen not by accident in the office, they are designed.
Passion for your Work
AM Connectivity sparks from within. You must bring a passion to your work everyday that is a beam...a beacon, attracting connections to those in your office. It does nat have to be done with a brashness, rather develop a sublte glow...a belief in what you do. It goes beyond spending hours at your desk...in the New York M.I.N.I.T. you get out from behind your desk and connect your passion to others through some very public ways:
Make Big Talk in a Small Room. Inviting connectivity hinges on your ability to make BIG TALK in SMALL ROOMS,not so much loud talk...but deep talk where you share your belief and passion for your work in the meeting rooms, conference rooms, elevators or break rooms of your workplace.It is a public setting and it's a place where you can share your positive view of the organization with your colleagues.
Keep it Simple. Bring your simple messages of positive spirit to the day, either in the exchanges you have in the hallway or the boardroom. Use a great quoat,and carry one in your pocket often...For example...
"Even if you're on the right track,you'll get run over if you just sit there!"
There is a sports announcer in Philadelphia who responds with the ultimate positive statement of simple connectivity.When asked, "How are you doing?" This personality responds, " Never had a bad day in my life!" A passion for living, yes?
Weave a fabric of Connections. Talk to everyone. Be sincere. The porters, the secretaries, the bosses...speak to all. If you are in an elevator, be the person who says goodmorning, or makes the first connected comment to the weather. Be noticed for your openess.
Use your PM Connectivity Skills.
Eye Contact....Here even more than in afterhours, use consistent eye contact to include people in your conversatuons, your questions, your presentations, no matter how small...keep looking at people. Look in their eyes. It helps people feel present and valued. it will make you a connected member of the group.
Approachable Voice....Use what research calls an Approachable voice to gain people's trust. Not booming, loud, shrill, but even and at the end of statements, allow you voice to lift a bit in tone to invite comments. This work well in meetings and in conference calls as well as in stand up meetings in the hallways!
Inquiry... Be there with a question that shows you have listened, from the most casual moment of meeting in the lunchroom, to being at the CEO's meeting. People who ask good questions get noticed, seem more connected and get more appreciation. Start working on asking questions without badgering.
Listen! Listen!...As with your PM work in a big room, keep aware of networking in a small room...and us he Big skills of listening. It may be hard to do since research says most of us have a 90 second attention span for listening! But work to listen and frame questions or paraphrased responses as we practiced earlier. A good listener makes connection in an organization and becomes the GO TO person fast!
The office is the perfect spot to refine your New York M.I.N.I.T. moves. And with any luck, you are "among friends",not strangers at work who will welcome your efforts. If you feel like you are surrounded by strangers who won't "play"...keep pushing yourself through any feeling of rejection since you'll have to bear that in PM moments with total starngers! But if it persists, I'd be on Craig's List looking for a new job!
So let's revisit "I" in the New York M.I.N.I.T...Inviting Connectivity!
Now these are your AM moves for the office,and there are similarities and differences in the connectivity you establish outside of your office and in the workplace when you work to make connections.Connections happen not by accident in the office, they are designed.
Passion for your Work
AM Connectivity sparks from within. You must bring a passion to your work everyday that is a beam...a beacon, attracting connections to those in your office. It does nat have to be done with a brashness, rather develop a sublte glow...a belief in what you do. It goes beyond spending hours at your desk...in the New York M.I.N.I.T. you get out from behind your desk and connect your passion to others through some very public ways:
Make Big Talk in a Small Room. Inviting connectivity hinges on your ability to make BIG TALK in SMALL ROOMS,not so much loud talk...but deep talk where you share your belief and passion for your work in the meeting rooms, conference rooms, elevators or break rooms of your workplace.It is a public setting and it's a place where you can share your positive view of the organization with your colleagues.
Keep it Simple. Bring your simple messages of positive spirit to the day, either in the exchanges you have in the hallway or the boardroom. Use a great quoat,and carry one in your pocket often...For example...
"Even if you're on the right track,you'll get run over if you just sit there!"
There is a sports announcer in Philadelphia who responds with the ultimate positive statement of simple connectivity.When asked, "How are you doing?" This personality responds, " Never had a bad day in my life!" A passion for living, yes?
Weave a fabric of Connections. Talk to everyone. Be sincere. The porters, the secretaries, the bosses...speak to all. If you are in an elevator, be the person who says goodmorning, or makes the first connected comment to the weather. Be noticed for your openess.
Use your PM Connectivity Skills.
Eye Contact....Here even more than in afterhours, use consistent eye contact to include people in your conversatuons, your questions, your presentations, no matter how small...keep looking at people. Look in their eyes. It helps people feel present and valued. it will make you a connected member of the group.
Approachable Voice....Use what research calls an Approachable voice to gain people's trust. Not booming, loud, shrill, but even and at the end of statements, allow you voice to lift a bit in tone to invite comments. This work well in meetings and in conference calls as well as in stand up meetings in the hallways!
Inquiry... Be there with a question that shows you have listened, from the most casual moment of meeting in the lunchroom, to being at the CEO's meeting. People who ask good questions get noticed, seem more connected and get more appreciation. Start working on asking questions without badgering.
Listen! Listen!...As with your PM work in a big room, keep aware of networking in a small room...and us he Big skills of listening. It may be hard to do since research says most of us have a 90 second attention span for listening! But work to listen and frame questions or paraphrased responses as we practiced earlier. A good listener makes connection in an organization and becomes the GO TO person fast!
Tuesday, April 25, 2006
Listen to this...Event me!
Okay...I love people, places, parties, music, dancing, food, art....what don't I love???
Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx
This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!
Enjoy!
Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx
This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!
Enjoy!
Listen to this...Event me!
Okay...I love people, places, parties, music, dancing, food, art....what don't I love???
Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx
This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!
Enjoy!
Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx
This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!
Enjoy!
Monday, April 24, 2006
Women Executives See the Beauty of Networking In a “New York MINIT”
Women Executives See the Beauty of Networking In a “New York MINIT”
In a crowded conference room overlooking Madison Ave and 42nd Street the monthly meeting of the Manhattan Chapter of BPW, Business Professional Women, came to order. There wasn’t an empty seat in the house. Forty professional women of all ages and ethnicities from every corner of the city squeezed elbow to elbow around a conference table. Not the most comfortable place after a long workday. It was standing room only, but no one was complaining. The members had their après work glass of wine and cheese courtesy of BPW. There was a good buzz in the air…women at work.
The Business and Professional Women’s Manhattan Chapter is growing, and as the conference room attests, its membership is exploding. Professional women who want to meet, to network and to support their female colleagues choose organizations like BPW for monthly meetings that help women build connections in the city, and in the case of BPW, to even do this internationally. The group offers collegiality and current topics of interest to business women.
The topic for the evening was a hot one, and the promise of a lively presentation attracted the professional woman to the table from every realm of work in the city. The speaker, Trish Rubin, Founding Principal of The EdVentures Group, a New York based consulting group with national and international clients, delivered a high energy look at the beauty of networking in the city. Ms. Rubin, who has trained adults in professional development settings in thirty-eight states and abroad, took on the topic of networking in New York, through her own lens called, “The New York MINIT”. In the short span of forty minutes, the group learned a fast-paced framework for getting the most out of networking in a room of twenty or two hundred people. “Trish’s talk kept us enthralled at the end of a long day,” said BPW member, Irina Feygin, an image consultant with Impeccable iMage, Inc. “All the "fine points" of successful networking were addressed in a wonderful , animated presentation.”
Ms. Rubin captured her audience through humor and activity. The small conference room, at first quiet, soon buzzed with vitality. People to people connectivity bubbled up in the usually staid bank conference room. The easy to employ tools of the New York MINIT, highlighted and practiced during the short presentation, created energy and power in the room that was sure to translate into each woman’s workday.
Phyllis Marino, VP of Retail for Commerce Bank and President of the BPW Manhattan chapter, scheduled the networking speaker. Ms Marino regarded the topic as one of great interest to her membership. The attendance at the session confirmed her belief. Ms. Rubin’s presentation the right fit for her organization.
The group left with some easy to implement tools to add to their networking repertoire. The New York MINIT is based on quick rapport building and connectivity for making the right connection for building contacts or getting that next job. Getting feedback from the audience was essential for Ms. Marino. One participant responded to the session positively, “My attitude about networking was definitely was changed after the session with the energy, passion and confidence portrayed by our presenter. Now I won’t be nervous to meet new people with the easy to remember technique, the NY MINIT.”
BPW meets every month at selected Commerce Bank sites and welcomes new members at each meeting. Ms. Marino invites women from all professional areas to attend the next meeting, May 18th at 5:30-7:30pm for networking and a presentation . Please call 212.600.1421 with further inquiries. Sessions are free to members and $5.00 for non-members.
Trish Rubin can be contacted at trish@theedventuresgroup.com or 856.426.1784. her blog is www.theedventuresgroup@blogspot.com . Info about the NY MINIT can be found on the blog and on Go Artcles,www.goarticles.com.
In a crowded conference room overlooking Madison Ave and 42nd Street the monthly meeting of the Manhattan Chapter of BPW, Business Professional Women, came to order. There wasn’t an empty seat in the house. Forty professional women of all ages and ethnicities from every corner of the city squeezed elbow to elbow around a conference table. Not the most comfortable place after a long workday. It was standing room only, but no one was complaining. The members had their après work glass of wine and cheese courtesy of BPW. There was a good buzz in the air…women at work.
The Business and Professional Women’s Manhattan Chapter is growing, and as the conference room attests, its membership is exploding. Professional women who want to meet, to network and to support their female colleagues choose organizations like BPW for monthly meetings that help women build connections in the city, and in the case of BPW, to even do this internationally. The group offers collegiality and current topics of interest to business women.
The topic for the evening was a hot one, and the promise of a lively presentation attracted the professional woman to the table from every realm of work in the city. The speaker, Trish Rubin, Founding Principal of The EdVentures Group, a New York based consulting group with national and international clients, delivered a high energy look at the beauty of networking in the city. Ms. Rubin, who has trained adults in professional development settings in thirty-eight states and abroad, took on the topic of networking in New York, through her own lens called, “The New York MINIT”. In the short span of forty minutes, the group learned a fast-paced framework for getting the most out of networking in a room of twenty or two hundred people. “Trish’s talk kept us enthralled at the end of a long day,” said BPW member, Irina Feygin, an image consultant with Impeccable iMage, Inc. “All the "fine points" of successful networking were addressed in a wonderful , animated presentation.”
Ms. Rubin captured her audience through humor and activity. The small conference room, at first quiet, soon buzzed with vitality. People to people connectivity bubbled up in the usually staid bank conference room. The easy to employ tools of the New York MINIT, highlighted and practiced during the short presentation, created energy and power in the room that was sure to translate into each woman’s workday.
Phyllis Marino, VP of Retail for Commerce Bank and President of the BPW Manhattan chapter, scheduled the networking speaker. Ms Marino regarded the topic as one of great interest to her membership. The attendance at the session confirmed her belief. Ms. Rubin’s presentation the right fit for her organization.
The group left with some easy to implement tools to add to their networking repertoire. The New York MINIT is based on quick rapport building and connectivity for making the right connection for building contacts or getting that next job. Getting feedback from the audience was essential for Ms. Marino. One participant responded to the session positively, “My attitude about networking was definitely was changed after the session with the energy, passion and confidence portrayed by our presenter. Now I won’t be nervous to meet new people with the easy to remember technique, the NY MINIT.”
BPW meets every month at selected Commerce Bank sites and welcomes new members at each meeting. Ms. Marino invites women from all professional areas to attend the next meeting, May 18th at 5:30-7:30pm for networking and a presentation . Please call 212.600.1421 with further inquiries. Sessions are free to members and $5.00 for non-members.
Trish Rubin can be contacted at trish@theedventuresgroup.com or 856.426.1784. her blog is www.theedventuresgroup@blogspot.com . Info about the NY MINIT can be found on the blog and on Go Artcles,www.goarticles.com.
Friday, April 21, 2006
Networking Message for the Day!
Train Your Mind for Success
Nothing can be achieved unless you first believe it. Train your mind to believe that you WILL achieve your goals.
Your brain is a muscle. Like any other muscle in your body, it needs to be exercised in order for it to grow, become stronger and increase its performance. The way to accomplish this is through proper exercise of your muscle (brain).
I’m sure you have heard of Bill Gates. If you haven’t then you probably have at least used computer software designed by his company, Microsoft. Bill Gates is listed as the richest man in America with an estimated net worth of $100 billion. (That’s right, billion!)
In a recent interview, Bill was asked how he is able to develop unique ideas and concepts that continuously put Microsoft ahead of all other computer software companies. His answer was amazing, but simple.
Bill told a story of his childhood. He said that one day his mother couldn't find him anywhere in the house. Finally, she opened the closet door and found him sitting there in the dark closet. When his mother asked why he was sitting in a dark closet, he replied, “I’m thinking.”
Bill went on in the interview to stress how important it is to exercise your brain because it responds to repetitive exercise.
There’s an old saying, “Repetition is the Mother of Skill,” meaning that in order for you to improve or increase your performance, you need to practice the fundamentals over and over again.
Studies have indicated that it takes approximately 21-30 days to create a new habit. This means that if you want to change or create a belief in your mind, it should become a natural habit after working on it for 21-30 days.
“The key to success is to study. Your brain must
be exercised like a muscle - work it well.”
-Joe Weider
Chairman of the Board, Weider Publications
creator of Muscle & Fitness magazine
USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE. You can use it as long as you agree to include the following blurb at the end of it: James Malinchak is one of “America’s Most Requested Motivational Speakers!” He is the author of 10 top-selling success and motivational books and a contributing author to the #1 Best-selling book series, Chicken Soup for the Soul®. To contact James for a speaking engagement: visit: www.Malinchak.com
Nothing can be achieved unless you first believe it. Train your mind to believe that you WILL achieve your goals.
Your brain is a muscle. Like any other muscle in your body, it needs to be exercised in order for it to grow, become stronger and increase its performance. The way to accomplish this is through proper exercise of your muscle (brain).
I’m sure you have heard of Bill Gates. If you haven’t then you probably have at least used computer software designed by his company, Microsoft. Bill Gates is listed as the richest man in America with an estimated net worth of $100 billion. (That’s right, billion!)
In a recent interview, Bill was asked how he is able to develop unique ideas and concepts that continuously put Microsoft ahead of all other computer software companies. His answer was amazing, but simple.
Bill told a story of his childhood. He said that one day his mother couldn't find him anywhere in the house. Finally, she opened the closet door and found him sitting there in the dark closet. When his mother asked why he was sitting in a dark closet, he replied, “I’m thinking.”
Bill went on in the interview to stress how important it is to exercise your brain because it responds to repetitive exercise.
There’s an old saying, “Repetition is the Mother of Skill,” meaning that in order for you to improve or increase your performance, you need to practice the fundamentals over and over again.
Studies have indicated that it takes approximately 21-30 days to create a new habit. This means that if you want to change or create a belief in your mind, it should become a natural habit after working on it for 21-30 days.
“The key to success is to study. Your brain must
be exercised like a muscle - work it well.”
-Joe Weider
Chairman of the Board, Weider Publications
creator of Muscle & Fitness magazine
USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE. You can use it as long as you agree to include the following blurb at the end of it: James Malinchak is one of “America’s Most Requested Motivational Speakers!” He is the author of 10 top-selling success and motivational books and a contributing author to the #1 Best-selling book series, Chicken Soup for the Soul®. To contact James for a speaking engagement: visit: www.Malinchak.com
Sunday, April 16, 2006
Networking : Relationship Rules
Ok...Technology rules in business...email, Blackberry,fax, webcasts, conference calls...but what does research tell us...Technology is a mixed blessing. zSure data is shared in a click...or information processes at high speed, but what does business still thrive on? People to People contact!
And in Networking relationships rule! Of course, there are those who don't want to network. These are often the people who will email the person sitting at the next desk rather than talk to them in real time! But don't get caught trading your sensibility for speed. You need people to people contact.
In networking the real time still rules, since most true deals depend on trust....and building a rapport quickly..and in networking you can do this in 90 seconds....think EYE CONTACT...think NAME...think BODY LANGUAGE...and then let the conversation evolve...and listen to the person you are engaged with...Better than a text message any day of the week!
And in Networking relationships rule! Of course, there are those who don't want to network. These are often the people who will email the person sitting at the next desk rather than talk to them in real time! But don't get caught trading your sensibility for speed. You need people to people contact.
In networking the real time still rules, since most true deals depend on trust....and building a rapport quickly..and in networking you can do this in 90 seconds....think EYE CONTACT...think NAME...think BODY LANGUAGE...and then let the conversation evolve...and listen to the person you are engaged with...Better than a text message any day of the week!
Friday, April 07, 2006
Networking in the New York M. I.N.I.T.:That's a wrap!
The networking frame of the New York MINIT Closes with the last step...T.for...
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
Networking in the New York M. I.N.I.T.:That's a wrap!
The networking frame of the New York MINIT Closes with the last step...T.for...
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
Wednesday, April 05, 2006
Networking in The New York M.I.N.I.T.: It's My Pleasure!
The framework for networking at a meeting is at tops...thirty minutes...make every minute count...Use the New York MINIT framework!
And time is getting tight on the networking clock...but imagine you have found a great prize connection...The Go to GUY or Woman!!! You cn feel it...now if you can just get their CARD!!!
Without begging...
IT'S MY PLEASURE!
In this part of your engagement with your chat partner, it's time to develop quick trust in the fact that your paths might be aligned...or if not...could be crossed to mutual benefit..At his point, talk a bit about your work with as much enthusiasm as possible...but simply!... and use the information you've gained from the NICE WORK step in the framework...only use what you think your partner can immediately see as a "click". Then after having the floor ,you should resume the questions again, but with a soft touch...this isn't the time to fire questions, but craft them: " So I'm hearing some common ground in what we do, do you?" or "I'm hearing some connections, do you?"
Now, I will just about guarantee that...your partner's card comes first...it is like a game for me....I won't give the card first...ok...I am also a woman that doesn't call a man for a date!!! I just love to get the card first...To me that shows commitment to the connection!
And time is getting tight on the networking clock...but imagine you have found a great prize connection...The Go to GUY or Woman!!! You cn feel it...now if you can just get their CARD!!!
Without begging...
IT'S MY PLEASURE!
In this part of your engagement with your chat partner, it's time to develop quick trust in the fact that your paths might be aligned...or if not...could be crossed to mutual benefit..At his point, talk a bit about your work with as much enthusiasm as possible...but simply!... and use the information you've gained from the NICE WORK step in the framework...only use what you think your partner can immediately see as a "click". Then after having the floor ,you should resume the questions again, but with a soft touch...this isn't the time to fire questions, but craft them: " So I'm hearing some common ground in what we do, do you?" or "I'm hearing some connections, do you?"
Now, I will just about guarantee that...your partner's card comes first...it is like a game for me....I won't give the card first...ok...I am also a woman that doesn't call a man for a date!!! I just love to get the card first...To me that shows commitment to the connection!
The Networking the New York M.I.N.T.: Nice Work!
The New York MINIT networking frame continues!
Now...The ultimate goal of using the New York MINIT is to find the power person in a room of hundreds that will be your networking FIND...the best contact out of that session...the go to guy or woman that helps you advance yourself!The person who made the cost of attending worthwhile, if you had to pay the tab yourself!
Now that you've made a first move and invited some connectivity in your fast paced networking tour...continue to push yourself as a networker. According to the great Keith Ferrazzi, networking is first and foremost, about relationships, so in the room the size of TEXAS you have to find that prize steer...so,get friendly fast!
NICE WORK!
The N in the New York MINIT is for the phrase "Nice Work"! If you have not found that you've connected with an interesting chat partner....Don't wait time. Break politely from the rapport of the group and move away from the threesome you've formed. Go on the search again for a lone person...or you may decide to join an active pair already connecting. If you find another solo...start the framework process again with the M: Make the connection...if you join a pair use the I in the framework by saying a simple earnest "Excuse me", and a question that develops some instant connectivity. " What's your connection to this great idea...event...person...I'm here because..."
But let's say you have found a great chat partner or pair....time to move to the next phase..NICE WORK!
This is a quick moment in the framework where you, having found out a bit about this person, can make a quick positive comment about how NICE their WORK is....with responses that are genuine...." You must get a lot of satisfaction from your work as ....." or" You've been able to create great result from your work on _____, I'm sure." Statements, not questions are part of the nice work phase so it's not an interagation...let your chat partner TALK as much as possible. LISTEN and stoke the connection with positive...authentic statements about the work they are describing.You are probably enjoying listening anyway.
Now...The ultimate goal of using the New York MINIT is to find the power person in a room of hundreds that will be your networking FIND...the best contact out of that session...the go to guy or woman that helps you advance yourself!The person who made the cost of attending worthwhile, if you had to pay the tab yourself!
Now that you've made a first move and invited some connectivity in your fast paced networking tour...continue to push yourself as a networker. According to the great Keith Ferrazzi, networking is first and foremost, about relationships, so in the room the size of TEXAS you have to find that prize steer...so,get friendly fast!
NICE WORK!
The N in the New York MINIT is for the phrase "Nice Work"! If you have not found that you've connected with an interesting chat partner....Don't wait time. Break politely from the rapport of the group and move away from the threesome you've formed. Go on the search again for a lone person...or you may decide to join an active pair already connecting. If you find another solo...start the framework process again with the M: Make the connection...if you join a pair use the I in the framework by saying a simple earnest "Excuse me", and a question that develops some instant connectivity. " What's your connection to this great idea...event...person...I'm here because..."
But let's say you have found a great chat partner or pair....time to move to the next phase..NICE WORK!
This is a quick moment in the framework where you, having found out a bit about this person, can make a quick positive comment about how NICE their WORK is....with responses that are genuine...." You must get a lot of satisfaction from your work as ....." or" You've been able to create great result from your work on _____, I'm sure." Statements, not questions are part of the nice work phase so it's not an interagation...let your chat partner TALK as much as possible. LISTEN and stoke the connection with positive...authentic statements about the work they are describing.You are probably enjoying listening anyway.
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