Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Listen to this...Event me!

Okay...I love people, places, parties, music, dancing, food, art....what don't I love???

Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx

This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!

Enjoy!

Listen to this...Event me!

Okay...I love people, places, parties, music, dancing, food, art....what don't I love???

Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx

This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!

Enjoy!

Monday, April 24, 2006

Women Executives See the Beauty of Networking In a “New York MINIT”

Women Executives See the Beauty of Networking In a “New York MINIT”


In a crowded conference room overlooking Madison Ave and 42nd Street the monthly meeting of the Manhattan Chapter of BPW, Business Professional Women, came to order. There wasn’t an empty seat in the house. Forty professional women of all ages and ethnicities from every corner of the city squeezed elbow to elbow around a conference table. Not the most comfortable place after a long workday. It was standing room only, but no one was complaining. The members had their apr├Ęs work glass of wine and cheese courtesy of BPW. There was a good buzz in the air…women at work.

The Business and Professional Women’s Manhattan Chapter is growing, and as the conference room attests, its membership is exploding. Professional women who want to meet, to network and to support their female colleagues choose organizations like BPW for monthly meetings that help women build connections in the city, and in the case of BPW, to even do this internationally. The group offers collegiality and current topics of interest to business women.

The topic for the evening was a hot one, and the promise of a lively presentation attracted the professional woman to the table from every realm of work in the city. The speaker, Trish Rubin, Founding Principal of The EdVentures Group, a New York based consulting group with national and international clients, delivered a high energy look at the beauty of networking in the city. Ms. Rubin, who has trained adults in professional development settings in thirty-eight states and abroad, took on the topic of networking in New York, through her own lens called, “The New York MINIT”. In the short span of forty minutes, the group learned a fast-paced framework for getting the most out of networking in a room of twenty or two hundred people. “Trish’s talk kept us enthralled at the end of a long day,” said BPW member, Irina Feygin, an image consultant with Impeccable iMage, Inc. “All the "fine points" of successful networking were addressed in a wonderful , animated presentation.”

Ms. Rubin captured her audience through humor and activity. The small conference room, at first quiet, soon buzzed with vitality. People to people connectivity bubbled up in the usually staid bank conference room. The easy to employ tools of the New York MINIT, highlighted and practiced during the short presentation, created energy and power in the room that was sure to translate into each woman’s workday.



Phyllis Marino, VP of Retail for Commerce Bank and President of the BPW Manhattan chapter, scheduled the networking speaker. Ms Marino regarded the topic as one of great interest to her membership. The attendance at the session confirmed her belief. Ms. Rubin’s presentation the right fit for her organization.


The group left with some easy to implement tools to add to their networking repertoire. The New York MINIT is based on quick rapport building and connectivity for making the right connection for building contacts or getting that next job. Getting feedback from the audience was essential for Ms. Marino. One participant responded to the session positively, “My attitude about networking was definitely was changed after the session with the energy, passion and confidence portrayed by our presenter. Now I won’t be nervous to meet new people with the easy to remember technique, the NY MINIT.”

BPW meets every month at selected Commerce Bank sites and welcomes new members at each meeting. Ms. Marino invites women from all professional areas to attend the next meeting, May 18th at 5:30-7:30pm for networking and a presentation . Please call 212.600.1421 with further inquiries. Sessions are free to members and $5.00 for non-members.

Trish Rubin can be contacted at trish@theedventuresgroup.com or 856.426.1784. her blog is www.theedventuresgroup@blogspot.com . Info about the NY MINIT can be found on the blog and on Go Artcles,www.goarticles.com.

Friday, April 21, 2006

Networking Message for the Day!

Train Your Mind for Success
Nothing can be achieved unless you first believe it. Train your mind to believe that you WILL achieve your goals.

Your brain is a muscle. Like any other muscle in your body, it needs to be exercised in order for it to grow, become stronger and increase its performance. The way to accomplish this is through proper exercise of your muscle (brain).

I’m sure you have heard of Bill Gates. If you haven’t then you probably have at least used computer software designed by his company, Microsoft. Bill Gates is listed as the richest man in America with an estimated net worth of $100 billion. (That’s right, billion!)

In a recent interview, Bill was asked how he is able to develop unique ideas and concepts that continuously put Microsoft ahead of all other computer software companies. His answer was amazing, but simple.

Bill told a story of his childhood. He said that one day his mother couldn't find him anywhere in the house. Finally, she opened the closet door and found him sitting there in the dark closet. When his mother asked why he was sitting in a dark closet, he replied, “I’m thinking.”

Bill went on in the interview to stress how important it is to exercise your brain because it responds to repetitive exercise.

There’s an old saying, “Repetition is the Mother of Skill,” meaning that in order for you to improve or increase your performance, you need to practice the fundamentals over and over again.

Studies have indicated that it takes approximately 21-30 days to create a new habit. This means that if you want to change or create a belief in your mind, it should become a natural habit after working on it for 21-30 days.


“The key to success is to study. Your brain must
be exercised like a muscle - work it well.”

-Joe Weider
Chairman of the Board, Weider Publications
creator of Muscle & Fitness magazine



USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE. You can use it as long as you agree to include the following blurb at the end of it: James Malinchak is one of “America’s Most Requested Motivational Speakers!” He is the author of 10 top-selling success and motivational books and a contributing author to the #1 Best-selling book series, Chicken Soup for the Soul®. To contact James for a speaking engagement: visit: www.Malinchak.com

Sunday, April 16, 2006

Networking : Relationship Rules

Ok...Technology rules in business...email, Blackberry,fax, webcasts, conference calls...but what does research tell us...Technology is a mixed blessing. zSure data is shared in a click...or information processes at high speed, but what does business still thrive on? People to People contact!

And in Networking relationships rule! Of course, there are those who don't want to network. These are often the people who will email the person sitting at the next desk rather than talk to them in real time! But don't get caught trading your sensibility for speed. You need people to people contact.

In networking the real time still rules, since most true deals depend on trust....and building a rapport quickly..and in networking you can do this in 90 seconds....think EYE CONTACT...think NAME...think BODY LANGUAGE...and then let the conversation evolve...and listen to the person you are engaged with...Better than a text message any day of the week!

Networking as a Natuaral

Networking as a Natuaral

Friday, April 07, 2006

Networking in the New York M. I.N.I.T.:That's a wrap!

The networking frame of the New York MINIT Closes with the last step...T.for...


"THAT'S A WRAP!..."

If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.

In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.

If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.


...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!

Networking in the New York M. I.N.I.T.:That's a wrap!

The networking frame of the New York MINIT Closes with the last step...T.for...


"THAT'S A WRAP!..."

If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.

In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.

If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.


...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Networking in The New York M.I.N.I.T.: It's My Pleasure!

The framework for networking at a meeting is at tops...thirty minutes...make every minute count...Use the New York MINIT framework!


And time is getting tight on the networking clock...but imagine you have found a great prize connection...The Go to GUY or Woman!!! You cn feel it...now if you can just get their CARD!!!

Without begging...

IT'S MY PLEASURE!

In this part of your engagement with your chat partner, it's time to develop quick trust in the fact that your paths might be aligned...or if not...could be crossed to mutual benefit..At his point, talk a bit about your work with as much enthusiasm as possible...but simply!... and use the information you've gained from the NICE WORK step in the framework...only use what you think your partner can immediately see as a "click". Then after having the floor ,you should resume the questions again, but with a soft touch...this isn't the time to fire questions, but craft them: " So I'm hearing some common ground in what we do, do you?" or "I'm hearing some connections, do you?"

Now, I will just about guarantee that...your partner's card comes first...it is like a game for me....I won't give the card first...ok...I am also a woman that doesn't call a man for a date!!! I just love to get the card first...To me that shows commitment to the connection!

The Networking the New York M.I.N.T.: Nice Work!

The New York MINIT networking frame continues!

Now...The ultimate goal of using the New York MINIT is to find the power person in a room of hundreds that will be your networking FIND...the best contact out of that session...the go to guy or woman that helps you advance yourself!The person who made the cost of attending worthwhile, if you had to pay the tab yourself!

Now that you've made a first move and invited some connectivity in your fast paced networking tour...continue to push yourself as a networker. According to the great Keith Ferrazzi, networking is first and foremost, about relationships, so in the room the size of TEXAS you have to find that prize steer...so,get friendly fast!


NICE WORK!

The N in the New York MINIT is for the phrase "Nice Work"! If you have not found that you've connected with an interesting chat partner....Don't wait time. Break politely from the rapport of the group and move away from the threesome you've formed. Go on the search again for a lone person...or you may decide to join an active pair already connecting. If you find another solo...start the framework process again with the M: Make the connection...if you join a pair use the I in the framework by saying a simple earnest "Excuse me", and a question that develops some instant connectivity. " What's your connection to this great idea...event...person...I'm here because..."

But let's say you have found a great chat partner or pair....time to move to the next phase..NICE WORK!

This is a quick moment in the framework where you, having found out a bit about this person, can make a quick positive comment about how NICE their WORK is....with responses that are genuine...." You must get a lot of satisfaction from your work as ....." or" You've been able to create great result from your work on _____, I'm sure." Statements, not questions are part of the nice work phase so it's not an interagation...let your chat partner TALK as much as possible. LISTEN and stoke the connection with positive...authentic statements about the work they are describing.You are probably enjoying listening anyway.

Monday, April 03, 2006

Clothesspins to be Launched

Trish Rubin announces today, the beginning of a user generated site....www.clothesspins.com. The site is dedicated to those who want to write about the deep human stories that have shaped their lives, through the connection to an article of clothing that figures into the tale....more than the t shirt that was worn in little league. Clothesspiners will be searching their closets and memories for cloting or accessories that are powerful reminders of " a day in the life" experiences...serious and humorous stories, both! be ready to upload the article in a photo for the site!

A Seamless Story of the Day will be featured on the web for readers.

If you would like to contribute before the site is launched...email trishrubin@yahoo.com

Sunday, April 02, 2006

Put the I in the Network: The New York M.I.N.I.T.

Moving along in our NewYork MINIT networking plan....approach th I. Put yourself fully into making connections! INVITE CONNECTIVITY THROUGH RAPPORT!!!

My colleague tells me this is the part of the framework that is like TURBO, HIGH SPEED DATING!!! This part of the framework is about building rapport quickly. Whe you are on your feet in a room full of strangers, you must act quickly and seamlessly to meet and develop rapport with new contacts. You can do this with immediate eye contact, posture, the right interesting question.

Immediate eye contact: Work to reinforce the eye contact you made when you first spoke, but let your eye break contact so not to intimidate. This also allows you to survey the room for solo individuals who may become part of your conversation. Without turning away from your conversations and without a lot of head turning, allow you eye to casually survey the room briefly, but always come back into direct eye contact!

Posture: Resarch shows that getting into Rapport means showing physical signs of mirroring your partner. Observe the stance and mirror closely. Tilt your head if your partner has this in play. Fold your arms, nod....don't treat this as SImon Says so much as quickly and ever so subltly sending a message: we are alike!

The Right Question: Be a good listener asnd ask a genuine question: "What brings you to this event?" " Are you a regular at these sessions?" Can start the ball rolling. Listen. Pause breifly and gegin to paraphrase by saying..."So...." So is a great connecting word, especially if you are going to paraphrase, " So, this is your first session?" for example...works!

As you engage in the Connectivity of I...find another solo who is without a person with whom to talk who is nearby. Invite them in with connectivity: " Are you looking for someone, or would you like to join us? " is genuine and works. The power of three for you is that you can always graciously excuse yourself if the connection proves to be a mismatch. You will be able to leave two people talking more easily than when you are one on one!


Putting the I in connectivity means quickly establishing a winning casual rapport that you could continue to draw upon later in the session after you have networked with others!