Okay...I love people, places, parties, music, dancing, food, art....what don't I love???
Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx
This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!
Enjoy!
Tuesday, April 25, 2006
Listen to this...Event me!
Okay...I love people, places, parties, music, dancing, food, art....what don't I love???
Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx
This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!
Enjoy!
Well...here's a new link to check out to connect to all of the above and more...http://www.eventme.com/default.aspx
This link is a goldmine for networkers...it is the brainchild of a fellow Rotarian....you will love the link and its connectivity to events in the city!!!
Enjoy!
Monday, April 24, 2006
Women Executives See the Beauty of Networking In a “New York MINIT”
Women Executives See the Beauty of Networking In a “New York MINIT”
In a crowded conference room overlooking Madison Ave and 42nd Street the monthly meeting of the Manhattan Chapter of BPW, Business Professional Women, came to order. There wasn’t an empty seat in the house. Forty professional women of all ages and ethnicities from every corner of the city squeezed elbow to elbow around a conference table. Not the most comfortable place after a long workday. It was standing room only, but no one was complaining. The members had their après work glass of wine and cheese courtesy of BPW. There was a good buzz in the air…women at work.
The Business and Professional Women’s Manhattan Chapter is growing, and as the conference room attests, its membership is exploding. Professional women who want to meet, to network and to support their female colleagues choose organizations like BPW for monthly meetings that help women build connections in the city, and in the case of BPW, to even do this internationally. The group offers collegiality and current topics of interest to business women.
The topic for the evening was a hot one, and the promise of a lively presentation attracted the professional woman to the table from every realm of work in the city. The speaker, Trish Rubin, Founding Principal of The EdVentures Group, a New York based consulting group with national and international clients, delivered a high energy look at the beauty of networking in the city. Ms. Rubin, who has trained adults in professional development settings in thirty-eight states and abroad, took on the topic of networking in New York, through her own lens called, “The New York MINIT”. In the short span of forty minutes, the group learned a fast-paced framework for getting the most out of networking in a room of twenty or two hundred people. “Trish’s talk kept us enthralled at the end of a long day,” said BPW member, Irina Feygin, an image consultant with Impeccable iMage, Inc. “All the "fine points" of successful networking were addressed in a wonderful , animated presentation.”
Ms. Rubin captured her audience through humor and activity. The small conference room, at first quiet, soon buzzed with vitality. People to people connectivity bubbled up in the usually staid bank conference room. The easy to employ tools of the New York MINIT, highlighted and practiced during the short presentation, created energy and power in the room that was sure to translate into each woman’s workday.
Phyllis Marino, VP of Retail for Commerce Bank and President of the BPW Manhattan chapter, scheduled the networking speaker. Ms Marino regarded the topic as one of great interest to her membership. The attendance at the session confirmed her belief. Ms. Rubin’s presentation the right fit for her organization.
The group left with some easy to implement tools to add to their networking repertoire. The New York MINIT is based on quick rapport building and connectivity for making the right connection for building contacts or getting that next job. Getting feedback from the audience was essential for Ms. Marino. One participant responded to the session positively, “My attitude about networking was definitely was changed after the session with the energy, passion and confidence portrayed by our presenter. Now I won’t be nervous to meet new people with the easy to remember technique, the NY MINIT.”
BPW meets every month at selected Commerce Bank sites and welcomes new members at each meeting. Ms. Marino invites women from all professional areas to attend the next meeting, May 18th at 5:30-7:30pm for networking and a presentation . Please call 212.600.1421 with further inquiries. Sessions are free to members and $5.00 for non-members.
Trish Rubin can be contacted at trish@theedventuresgroup.com or 856.426.1784. her blog is www.theedventuresgroup@blogspot.com . Info about the NY MINIT can be found on the blog and on Go Artcles,www.goarticles.com.
In a crowded conference room overlooking Madison Ave and 42nd Street the monthly meeting of the Manhattan Chapter of BPW, Business Professional Women, came to order. There wasn’t an empty seat in the house. Forty professional women of all ages and ethnicities from every corner of the city squeezed elbow to elbow around a conference table. Not the most comfortable place after a long workday. It was standing room only, but no one was complaining. The members had their après work glass of wine and cheese courtesy of BPW. There was a good buzz in the air…women at work.
The Business and Professional Women’s Manhattan Chapter is growing, and as the conference room attests, its membership is exploding. Professional women who want to meet, to network and to support their female colleagues choose organizations like BPW for monthly meetings that help women build connections in the city, and in the case of BPW, to even do this internationally. The group offers collegiality and current topics of interest to business women.
The topic for the evening was a hot one, and the promise of a lively presentation attracted the professional woman to the table from every realm of work in the city. The speaker, Trish Rubin, Founding Principal of The EdVentures Group, a New York based consulting group with national and international clients, delivered a high energy look at the beauty of networking in the city. Ms. Rubin, who has trained adults in professional development settings in thirty-eight states and abroad, took on the topic of networking in New York, through her own lens called, “The New York MINIT”. In the short span of forty minutes, the group learned a fast-paced framework for getting the most out of networking in a room of twenty or two hundred people. “Trish’s talk kept us enthralled at the end of a long day,” said BPW member, Irina Feygin, an image consultant with Impeccable iMage, Inc. “All the "fine points" of successful networking were addressed in a wonderful , animated presentation.”
Ms. Rubin captured her audience through humor and activity. The small conference room, at first quiet, soon buzzed with vitality. People to people connectivity bubbled up in the usually staid bank conference room. The easy to employ tools of the New York MINIT, highlighted and practiced during the short presentation, created energy and power in the room that was sure to translate into each woman’s workday.
Phyllis Marino, VP of Retail for Commerce Bank and President of the BPW Manhattan chapter, scheduled the networking speaker. Ms Marino regarded the topic as one of great interest to her membership. The attendance at the session confirmed her belief. Ms. Rubin’s presentation the right fit for her organization.
The group left with some easy to implement tools to add to their networking repertoire. The New York MINIT is based on quick rapport building and connectivity for making the right connection for building contacts or getting that next job. Getting feedback from the audience was essential for Ms. Marino. One participant responded to the session positively, “My attitude about networking was definitely was changed after the session with the energy, passion and confidence portrayed by our presenter. Now I won’t be nervous to meet new people with the easy to remember technique, the NY MINIT.”
BPW meets every month at selected Commerce Bank sites and welcomes new members at each meeting. Ms. Marino invites women from all professional areas to attend the next meeting, May 18th at 5:30-7:30pm for networking and a presentation . Please call 212.600.1421 with further inquiries. Sessions are free to members and $5.00 for non-members.
Trish Rubin can be contacted at trish@theedventuresgroup.com or 856.426.1784. her blog is www.theedventuresgroup@blogspot.com . Info about the NY MINIT can be found on the blog and on Go Artcles,www.goarticles.com.
Friday, April 21, 2006
Networking Message for the Day!
Train Your Mind for Success
Nothing can be achieved unless you first believe it. Train your mind to believe that you WILL achieve your goals.
Your brain is a muscle. Like any other muscle in your body, it needs to be exercised in order for it to grow, become stronger and increase its performance. The way to accomplish this is through proper exercise of your muscle (brain).
I’m sure you have heard of Bill Gates. If you haven’t then you probably have at least used computer software designed by his company, Microsoft. Bill Gates is listed as the richest man in America with an estimated net worth of $100 billion. (That’s right, billion!)
In a recent interview, Bill was asked how he is able to develop unique ideas and concepts that continuously put Microsoft ahead of all other computer software companies. His answer was amazing, but simple.
Bill told a story of his childhood. He said that one day his mother couldn't find him anywhere in the house. Finally, she opened the closet door and found him sitting there in the dark closet. When his mother asked why he was sitting in a dark closet, he replied, “I’m thinking.”
Bill went on in the interview to stress how important it is to exercise your brain because it responds to repetitive exercise.
There’s an old saying, “Repetition is the Mother of Skill,” meaning that in order for you to improve or increase your performance, you need to practice the fundamentals over and over again.
Studies have indicated that it takes approximately 21-30 days to create a new habit. This means that if you want to change or create a belief in your mind, it should become a natural habit after working on it for 21-30 days.
“The key to success is to study. Your brain must
be exercised like a muscle - work it well.”
-Joe Weider
Chairman of the Board, Weider Publications
creator of Muscle & Fitness magazine
USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE. You can use it as long as you agree to include the following blurb at the end of it: James Malinchak is one of “America’s Most Requested Motivational Speakers!” He is the author of 10 top-selling success and motivational books and a contributing author to the #1 Best-selling book series, Chicken Soup for the Soul®. To contact James for a speaking engagement: visit: www.Malinchak.com
Nothing can be achieved unless you first believe it. Train your mind to believe that you WILL achieve your goals.
Your brain is a muscle. Like any other muscle in your body, it needs to be exercised in order for it to grow, become stronger and increase its performance. The way to accomplish this is through proper exercise of your muscle (brain).
I’m sure you have heard of Bill Gates. If you haven’t then you probably have at least used computer software designed by his company, Microsoft. Bill Gates is listed as the richest man in America with an estimated net worth of $100 billion. (That’s right, billion!)
In a recent interview, Bill was asked how he is able to develop unique ideas and concepts that continuously put Microsoft ahead of all other computer software companies. His answer was amazing, but simple.
Bill told a story of his childhood. He said that one day his mother couldn't find him anywhere in the house. Finally, she opened the closet door and found him sitting there in the dark closet. When his mother asked why he was sitting in a dark closet, he replied, “I’m thinking.”
Bill went on in the interview to stress how important it is to exercise your brain because it responds to repetitive exercise.
There’s an old saying, “Repetition is the Mother of Skill,” meaning that in order for you to improve or increase your performance, you need to practice the fundamentals over and over again.
Studies have indicated that it takes approximately 21-30 days to create a new habit. This means that if you want to change or create a belief in your mind, it should become a natural habit after working on it for 21-30 days.
“The key to success is to study. Your brain must
be exercised like a muscle - work it well.”
-Joe Weider
Chairman of the Board, Weider Publications
creator of Muscle & Fitness magazine
USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE. You can use it as long as you agree to include the following blurb at the end of it: James Malinchak is one of “America’s Most Requested Motivational Speakers!” He is the author of 10 top-selling success and motivational books and a contributing author to the #1 Best-selling book series, Chicken Soup for the Soul®. To contact James for a speaking engagement: visit: www.Malinchak.com
Sunday, April 16, 2006
Networking : Relationship Rules
Ok...Technology rules in business...email, Blackberry,fax, webcasts, conference calls...but what does research tell us...Technology is a mixed blessing. zSure data is shared in a click...or information processes at high speed, but what does business still thrive on? People to People contact!
And in Networking relationships rule! Of course, there are those who don't want to network. These are often the people who will email the person sitting at the next desk rather than talk to them in real time! But don't get caught trading your sensibility for speed. You need people to people contact.
In networking the real time still rules, since most true deals depend on trust....and building a rapport quickly..and in networking you can do this in 90 seconds....think EYE CONTACT...think NAME...think BODY LANGUAGE...and then let the conversation evolve...and listen to the person you are engaged with...Better than a text message any day of the week!
And in Networking relationships rule! Of course, there are those who don't want to network. These are often the people who will email the person sitting at the next desk rather than talk to them in real time! But don't get caught trading your sensibility for speed. You need people to people contact.
In networking the real time still rules, since most true deals depend on trust....and building a rapport quickly..and in networking you can do this in 90 seconds....think EYE CONTACT...think NAME...think BODY LANGUAGE...and then let the conversation evolve...and listen to the person you are engaged with...Better than a text message any day of the week!
Friday, April 07, 2006
Networking in the New York M. I.N.I.T.:That's a wrap!
The networking frame of the New York MINIT Closes with the last step...T.for...
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
Networking in the New York M. I.N.I.T.:That's a wrap!
The networking frame of the New York MINIT Closes with the last step...T.for...
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
"THAT'S A WRAP!..."
If you have successfully found a great relational connection as you followed the NY MINIT framework....relax. This may be the ONLY person you need to meet! Hoping that the "find" has already given you the buisness card to connect you, you can offer yours in exchange. I like to get a card first! But will give mine in the Wrap if necessary.
In the Wrap, be focused on a next time connection: coffee, lunch....or simply a call to the office. Of course, you will email this person ASAP to follow up! You may even, if this is an event around dinner or lunch, ask if they'd like to join you at your table.
If you haven't found THE connection...try to get to the WRAP stage with at least three people to test your skill...remember, a lot of this is LISTENING.
...Also remember, "Wise men talk because they have something to say...Fools talk because they have to SAY something."
Don't be foolish in the Wrap..keep listening and gathering as much data as you can. In the successzive meeting you will schedule from the Networking, you'll be able to do the talking!!!
Wednesday, April 05, 2006
Networking in The New York M.I.N.I.T.: It's My Pleasure!
The framework for networking at a meeting is at tops...thirty minutes...make every minute count...Use the New York MINIT framework!
And time is getting tight on the networking clock...but imagine you have found a great prize connection...The Go to GUY or Woman!!! You cn feel it...now if you can just get their CARD!!!
Without begging...
IT'S MY PLEASURE!
In this part of your engagement with your chat partner, it's time to develop quick trust in the fact that your paths might be aligned...or if not...could be crossed to mutual benefit..At his point, talk a bit about your work with as much enthusiasm as possible...but simply!... and use the information you've gained from the NICE WORK step in the framework...only use what you think your partner can immediately see as a "click". Then after having the floor ,you should resume the questions again, but with a soft touch...this isn't the time to fire questions, but craft them: " So I'm hearing some common ground in what we do, do you?" or "I'm hearing some connections, do you?"
Now, I will just about guarantee that...your partner's card comes first...it is like a game for me....I won't give the card first...ok...I am also a woman that doesn't call a man for a date!!! I just love to get the card first...To me that shows commitment to the connection!
And time is getting tight on the networking clock...but imagine you have found a great prize connection...The Go to GUY or Woman!!! You cn feel it...now if you can just get their CARD!!!
Without begging...
IT'S MY PLEASURE!
In this part of your engagement with your chat partner, it's time to develop quick trust in the fact that your paths might be aligned...or if not...could be crossed to mutual benefit..At his point, talk a bit about your work with as much enthusiasm as possible...but simply!... and use the information you've gained from the NICE WORK step in the framework...only use what you think your partner can immediately see as a "click". Then after having the floor ,you should resume the questions again, but with a soft touch...this isn't the time to fire questions, but craft them: " So I'm hearing some common ground in what we do, do you?" or "I'm hearing some connections, do you?"
Now, I will just about guarantee that...your partner's card comes first...it is like a game for me....I won't give the card first...ok...I am also a woman that doesn't call a man for a date!!! I just love to get the card first...To me that shows commitment to the connection!
The Networking the New York M.I.N.T.: Nice Work!
The New York MINIT networking frame continues!
Now...The ultimate goal of using the New York MINIT is to find the power person in a room of hundreds that will be your networking FIND...the best contact out of that session...the go to guy or woman that helps you advance yourself!The person who made the cost of attending worthwhile, if you had to pay the tab yourself!
Now that you've made a first move and invited some connectivity in your fast paced networking tour...continue to push yourself as a networker. According to the great Keith Ferrazzi, networking is first and foremost, about relationships, so in the room the size of TEXAS you have to find that prize steer...so,get friendly fast!
NICE WORK!
The N in the New York MINIT is for the phrase "Nice Work"! If you have not found that you've connected with an interesting chat partner....Don't wait time. Break politely from the rapport of the group and move away from the threesome you've formed. Go on the search again for a lone person...or you may decide to join an active pair already connecting. If you find another solo...start the framework process again with the M: Make the connection...if you join a pair use the I in the framework by saying a simple earnest "Excuse me", and a question that develops some instant connectivity. " What's your connection to this great idea...event...person...I'm here because..."
But let's say you have found a great chat partner or pair....time to move to the next phase..NICE WORK!
This is a quick moment in the framework where you, having found out a bit about this person, can make a quick positive comment about how NICE their WORK is....with responses that are genuine...." You must get a lot of satisfaction from your work as ....." or" You've been able to create great result from your work on _____, I'm sure." Statements, not questions are part of the nice work phase so it's not an interagation...let your chat partner TALK as much as possible. LISTEN and stoke the connection with positive...authentic statements about the work they are describing.You are probably enjoying listening anyway.
Now...The ultimate goal of using the New York MINIT is to find the power person in a room of hundreds that will be your networking FIND...the best contact out of that session...the go to guy or woman that helps you advance yourself!The person who made the cost of attending worthwhile, if you had to pay the tab yourself!
Now that you've made a first move and invited some connectivity in your fast paced networking tour...continue to push yourself as a networker. According to the great Keith Ferrazzi, networking is first and foremost, about relationships, so in the room the size of TEXAS you have to find that prize steer...so,get friendly fast!
NICE WORK!
The N in the New York MINIT is for the phrase "Nice Work"! If you have not found that you've connected with an interesting chat partner....Don't wait time. Break politely from the rapport of the group and move away from the threesome you've formed. Go on the search again for a lone person...or you may decide to join an active pair already connecting. If you find another solo...start the framework process again with the M: Make the connection...if you join a pair use the I in the framework by saying a simple earnest "Excuse me", and a question that develops some instant connectivity. " What's your connection to this great idea...event...person...I'm here because..."
But let's say you have found a great chat partner or pair....time to move to the next phase..NICE WORK!
This is a quick moment in the framework where you, having found out a bit about this person, can make a quick positive comment about how NICE their WORK is....with responses that are genuine...." You must get a lot of satisfaction from your work as ....." or" You've been able to create great result from your work on _____, I'm sure." Statements, not questions are part of the nice work phase so it's not an interagation...let your chat partner TALK as much as possible. LISTEN and stoke the connection with positive...authentic statements about the work they are describing.You are probably enjoying listening anyway.
Monday, April 03, 2006
Clothesspins to be Launched
Trish Rubin announces today, the beginning of a user generated site....www.clothesspins.com. The site is dedicated to those who want to write about the deep human stories that have shaped their lives, through the connection to an article of clothing that figures into the tale....more than the t shirt that was worn in little league. Clothesspiners will be searching their closets and memories for cloting or accessories that are powerful reminders of " a day in the life" experiences...serious and humorous stories, both! be ready to upload the article in a photo for the site!
A Seamless Story of the Day will be featured on the web for readers.
If you would like to contribute before the site is launched...email trishrubin@yahoo.com
A Seamless Story of the Day will be featured on the web for readers.
If you would like to contribute before the site is launched...email trishrubin@yahoo.com
Sunday, April 02, 2006
Put the I in the Network: The New York M.I.N.I.T.
Moving along in our NewYork MINIT networking plan....approach th I. Put yourself fully into making connections! INVITE CONNECTIVITY THROUGH RAPPORT!!!
My colleague tells me this is the part of the framework that is like TURBO, HIGH SPEED DATING!!! This part of the framework is about building rapport quickly. Whe you are on your feet in a room full of strangers, you must act quickly and seamlessly to meet and develop rapport with new contacts. You can do this with immediate eye contact, posture, the right interesting question.
Immediate eye contact: Work to reinforce the eye contact you made when you first spoke, but let your eye break contact so not to intimidate. This also allows you to survey the room for solo individuals who may become part of your conversation. Without turning away from your conversations and without a lot of head turning, allow you eye to casually survey the room briefly, but always come back into direct eye contact!
Posture: Resarch shows that getting into Rapport means showing physical signs of mirroring your partner. Observe the stance and mirror closely. Tilt your head if your partner has this in play. Fold your arms, nod....don't treat this as SImon Says so much as quickly and ever so subltly sending a message: we are alike!
The Right Question: Be a good listener asnd ask a genuine question: "What brings you to this event?" " Are you a regular at these sessions?" Can start the ball rolling. Listen. Pause breifly and gegin to paraphrase by saying..."So...." So is a great connecting word, especially if you are going to paraphrase, " So, this is your first session?" for example...works!
As you engage in the Connectivity of I...find another solo who is without a person with whom to talk who is nearby. Invite them in with connectivity: " Are you looking for someone, or would you like to join us? " is genuine and works. The power of three for you is that you can always graciously excuse yourself if the connection proves to be a mismatch. You will be able to leave two people talking more easily than when you are one on one!
Putting the I in connectivity means quickly establishing a winning casual rapport that you could continue to draw upon later in the session after you have networked with others!
My colleague tells me this is the part of the framework that is like TURBO, HIGH SPEED DATING!!! This part of the framework is about building rapport quickly. Whe you are on your feet in a room full of strangers, you must act quickly and seamlessly to meet and develop rapport with new contacts. You can do this with immediate eye contact, posture, the right interesting question.
Immediate eye contact: Work to reinforce the eye contact you made when you first spoke, but let your eye break contact so not to intimidate. This also allows you to survey the room for solo individuals who may become part of your conversation. Without turning away from your conversations and without a lot of head turning, allow you eye to casually survey the room briefly, but always come back into direct eye contact!
Posture: Resarch shows that getting into Rapport means showing physical signs of mirroring your partner. Observe the stance and mirror closely. Tilt your head if your partner has this in play. Fold your arms, nod....don't treat this as SImon Says so much as quickly and ever so subltly sending a message: we are alike!
The Right Question: Be a good listener asnd ask a genuine question: "What brings you to this event?" " Are you a regular at these sessions?" Can start the ball rolling. Listen. Pause breifly and gegin to paraphrase by saying..."So...." So is a great connecting word, especially if you are going to paraphrase, " So, this is your first session?" for example...works!
As you engage in the Connectivity of I...find another solo who is without a person with whom to talk who is nearby. Invite them in with connectivity: " Are you looking for someone, or would you like to join us? " is genuine and works. The power of three for you is that you can always graciously excuse yourself if the connection proves to be a mismatch. You will be able to leave two people talking more easily than when you are one on one!
Putting the I in connectivity means quickly establishing a winning casual rapport that you could continue to draw upon later in the session after you have networked with others!
Monday, March 13, 2006
Putting the M in the New York M.I.N.I.T.: Networking to Make a Connection
The New York M.I.N.I.T is an energetic framework for busy professionals that taps into the root of networking...relationship building. The first tenet of the framework is the need to be Genuine and Authentic as you set out to network. Remember, the personal connection, even without scoring another business card, can always be a lasting benefit of networking. Keeping focused on the moment and the people you are surrounded by will help you not to glaze over in a frenzy of business card collection!
When you approach the first move in networking at a conference or meeting...remember the image of an octopus on rollerskates...you don't want to appear that way, do you? Think of the Octopus on rollerskates trying to cross the ballroom or conference room floor...lots of activity and plenty of motion expended...but nothing is happening that is productive...the octopus isn't making progress. Go farther with this picture.Think of each arm with a business card tucked into it...the octopus wants to mix and mingle, to get those cards out...but is thwarted by his own frenetic energy.
Pause...and breathe...Take 5 business cards and tuck them into your pocket...or better yet, buy a very cool looking holder that will make a nice impression when you finally CHOOSE to give your card over! Head for your meeting in your moment and think of M....NAke a connection!
MAKE a Connection in the New York M.I.N.I.T.
* Before you go...do a quick google of the group, mission, and people who matter. Be ready to use that in a connecting first moment
*Enter the room alone and find another loner, to break the ice and warm up you connectivity. Use your knowledge of the group from your Google to form the first question...Is ______--(head of the organization) here yet? I would like the chance to meet him/her?
The answer you get will determine how long you'll spend in conversation since you may want to find those who know or know of the power people in the room. Even if they don't introduce you, you can say..." HI, MS_________( Powerperson) I've just had a great chat with_____, who spoke highly of your work in _________________) You may not know the original person, but they may have helped you network from a quick conversation to the top dawg!
*Get the names of the loner people and burn them into your brain!Look them in the eye and associate...red tie, Ralph...Siver haired, Stella....Read the name tag...ANYTHING to recalll.Because as you come through the room again...you will want to see whom these people are chatting with and perhaps you want to join the group..."Excuse me, Stella, thanks for pointing ----out to me, I had a great conversation with them. By the way, I'm_____, if you recall," will take you far into a new group and help you to see if the conversation is rich enough to remain in!
* Speaking of name tags...wear yours in a prominent way at the throat or buy a special lanyard that you can loop around in a visable wsy...nothing worse than having people eyeball your navel in an attempt to read your name from a low hanging badge.
* Stay in connecting mode until you feel that the conversation is beneficial or not...but don't give up being relational and interested! If you feel that this is going nowhere...look to draw another nearby loner in with eye contact and a friendly gesture. After intros to get the two partners chatting, make your polite excuses and step away to find another Mske your connection opportunity!
When you approach the first move in networking at a conference or meeting...remember the image of an octopus on rollerskates...you don't want to appear that way, do you? Think of the Octopus on rollerskates trying to cross the ballroom or conference room floor...lots of activity and plenty of motion expended...but nothing is happening that is productive...the octopus isn't making progress. Go farther with this picture.Think of each arm with a business card tucked into it...the octopus wants to mix and mingle, to get those cards out...but is thwarted by his own frenetic energy.
Pause...and breathe...Take 5 business cards and tuck them into your pocket...or better yet, buy a very cool looking holder that will make a nice impression when you finally CHOOSE to give your card over! Head for your meeting in your moment and think of M....NAke a connection!
MAKE a Connection in the New York M.I.N.I.T.
* Before you go...do a quick google of the group, mission, and people who matter. Be ready to use that in a connecting first moment
*Enter the room alone and find another loner, to break the ice and warm up you connectivity. Use your knowledge of the group from your Google to form the first question...Is ______--(head of the organization) here yet? I would like the chance to meet him/her?
The answer you get will determine how long you'll spend in conversation since you may want to find those who know or know of the power people in the room. Even if they don't introduce you, you can say..." HI, MS_________( Powerperson) I've just had a great chat with_____, who spoke highly of your work in _________________) You may not know the original person, but they may have helped you network from a quick conversation to the top dawg!
*Get the names of the loner people and burn them into your brain!Look them in the eye and associate...red tie, Ralph...Siver haired, Stella....Read the name tag...ANYTHING to recalll.Because as you come through the room again...you will want to see whom these people are chatting with and perhaps you want to join the group..."Excuse me, Stella, thanks for pointing ----out to me, I had a great conversation with them. By the way, I'm_____, if you recall," will take you far into a new group and help you to see if the conversation is rich enough to remain in!
* Speaking of name tags...wear yours in a prominent way at the throat or buy a special lanyard that you can loop around in a visable wsy...nothing worse than having people eyeball your navel in an attempt to read your name from a low hanging badge.
* Stay in connecting mode until you feel that the conversation is beneficial or not...but don't give up being relational and interested! If you feel that this is going nowhere...look to draw another nearby loner in with eye contact and a friendly gesture. After intros to get the two partners chatting, make your polite excuses and step away to find another Mske your connection opportunity!
Friday, March 10, 2006
Rotarian Trish
Rotary International President’s Visit
Carl Wilhelm-Stenham, RI President for 2005-06, captured the hearts and minds of hundreds of Rotarians from New Jersey, New York and Pennsylvania on March 7th at the Hanover Inn at East Hanover, New Jersey. His engaging and authentic style of speaking inspired new and seasoned Rotarians to focus efforts within their own clubs as he described the “courage and daring” necessary to sustain the expansion of Rotary.
Dr. Wilhem-Stenham spoke eloquently about opening Rotary in Russia, China, and Cuba. He spoke of the challenges and successes that are part of this process for which he has dedicated his presidency, and urged members to be supportive of efforts regarding Rotary expansion throughout the world. In light of decreasing US membership, he targeted the need for Rotarians to make Rotary meaningful to young people, the need to find leaders, both men and women, in the community…and invite their participation. “A party without guests is nothing!” he stated in his address.
The President is on an International Tour as he carries the message of Rotary. As a new Rotarian, it was an honor to hear his inspiring speech and to meet him personally. Thanks to District 7490 and7470 for offering me and others the chance to hear this wonderful leader.
Trish Rubin
Carl Wilhelm-Stenham, RI President for 2005-06, captured the hearts and minds of hundreds of Rotarians from New Jersey, New York and Pennsylvania on March 7th at the Hanover Inn at East Hanover, New Jersey. His engaging and authentic style of speaking inspired new and seasoned Rotarians to focus efforts within their own clubs as he described the “courage and daring” necessary to sustain the expansion of Rotary.
Dr. Wilhem-Stenham spoke eloquently about opening Rotary in Russia, China, and Cuba. He spoke of the challenges and successes that are part of this process for which he has dedicated his presidency, and urged members to be supportive of efforts regarding Rotary expansion throughout the world. In light of decreasing US membership, he targeted the need for Rotarians to make Rotary meaningful to young people, the need to find leaders, both men and women, in the community…and invite their participation. “A party without guests is nothing!” he stated in his address.
The President is on an International Tour as he carries the message of Rotary. As a new Rotarian, it was an honor to hear his inspiring speech and to meet him personally. Thanks to District 7490 and7470 for offering me and others the chance to hear this wonderful leader.
Trish Rubin
Tuesday, March 07, 2006
Networking in the New York M.I.N.I.T.
It's really an American belief that only the best power to succcess, fight and claw their way to the top...only the strong survive!
Not true in networking! Only the Connected Survive...build a climate around yourself that takes you from the mindset of network collector to one of...catalyst!
Learning to create a buzz around business comes from the bridges you build, not burn, on your way to the top! And especially in New York City. The community is far from tight, but it's textured and affords great context for connection to new clients and supporters.
Using the framework of the NEW YORK M.I.N.I.T. , The EdVentures Group can promote your connection to the success you want. Start with the networking you do at a big conference or meeting..make it count!
The New York MINIT is a tight framework a business person can use to target a room...not for the purpose of collecting 50 business cards, but the 5 cards that will get you business!
M....Make a Move!
I....Invite the Connection
N....Nice Work!
I It's my Pleasure!
T...That's a (W)rap!
In the following articles, the framework will be described for any executive to practice...take your own 5 business cards and hold them in your pocket and read further!
Not true in networking! Only the Connected Survive...build a climate around yourself that takes you from the mindset of network collector to one of...catalyst!
Learning to create a buzz around business comes from the bridges you build, not burn, on your way to the top! And especially in New York City. The community is far from tight, but it's textured and affords great context for connection to new clients and supporters.
Using the framework of the NEW YORK M.I.N.I.T. , The EdVentures Group can promote your connection to the success you want. Start with the networking you do at a big conference or meeting..make it count!
The New York MINIT is a tight framework a business person can use to target a room...not for the purpose of collecting 50 business cards, but the 5 cards that will get you business!
M....Make a Move!
I....Invite the Connection
N....Nice Work!
I It's my Pleasure!
T...That's a (W)rap!
In the following articles, the framework will be described for any executive to practice...take your own 5 business cards and hold them in your pocket and read further!
Sunday, March 05, 2006
BPW International Federation
The Annual BPWI Federation Meeting held in New York City presented many opportunities for Women from all over the world to meet and network around the topic of Leadership.
Business and Professional Women's International Federation offers a great vehicle for women to network and to support and serv women in an International Community.
Reasons for Joining the Organization include:
An International Perspective on Issues
The Community Spirit of Women
Connections to Business
Political Arenassocial Opportunities Worldwide
Membership can be achieved at the Local and International level.
Please go on BPW.com for further information!
Business and Professional Women's International Federation offers a great vehicle for women to network and to support and serv women in an International Community.
Reasons for Joining the Organization include:
An International Perspective on Issues
The Community Spirit of Women
Connections to Business
Political Arenassocial Opportunities Worldwide
Membership can be achieved at the Local and International level.
Please go on BPW.com for further information!
Saturday, February 25, 2006
Listening for a Third Place Brand in your Writing Classroom
Familiar Landmarks
“It is not what you look at that matters, it is what you see.”
Henry David Thoreau
Third Place Messages in the Writing Classroom
Starbucks does it with branding. The colors, the furniture, the baristas! That’s what makes it possible to march up to a register in any Starbucks and proudly order a Grande mocha no whip skim latte without a blink! You feel supported by what you see and what people are doing in the space. It looks familiar. You are entering a No Risk Zone. It’s so familiar, Make Yourself at Home should appear on the door! In your writing classroom, the same can be true. It can be the one place in school where students, see the endless possibilities for growth. Support them through familiar landmarks. Plan thoughtfully for creating a third place environment, a place where students feel capable, comfortable and creative. These are the Third Place messages that appear in the Coffee Culture world.
In the Cafe Kulture…
Teachers adopt the term branding as well. What familiar sights and sounds can be part of your Café Kulture classroom?
Brand your classroom for Writing Success….
Design the space. Coffee houses are designed for movement and well as for comfort. Use the help of students to create the room arrangement, either before school starts or at any time of the school year. Students can draw up plans for physical arrangement of desks, bookcases. Treat this as a problem-solving piece. It’s often best to have the kids take ownership of the room. It will send a message of shared control of the kulture.
Display the words of writers. Use quotes and beautiful language that is found everywhere…charts, banners labels can surround the students . The message is clear. We value language and use it with intention in this classroom.
Use music to set moods. Research supports the use of music as an aid to thinking. You have your favorites, and open up the list to the students…give them control over what is played to help the thinking in the room during independent time…or even before a mini-lesson to jump start energy for thinking!
Provision occasionally with snacks and treats that make the time feel more social. Every Friday: Café Day. Bring your favorite snack to enjoy as you write.
Use verbal Anchors. In some coffee houses, you are asked to connect with the staff for a personal third place touch. You may be asked as you order to identify your favorite super hero…that’s how you are called when your coffee is prepared, for example “Latte for Wonderwoman!” In your classroom, use a verbal anchor to get kids to attend to the pace of work. When it’s time for a minilesson, say the VERY SAME thing each day…for example, teach them to respond to..”Let’s rock” and the kids must say back…”Rock on!” That’s a way to signal for attention…when Independent Writing follows… say, ”Let’s chill”, for example…kids say “Chillin!” Using verbal ques can focus and generate attention.
“It is not what you look at that matters, it is what you see.”
Henry David Thoreau
Third Place Messages in the Writing Classroom
Starbucks does it with branding. The colors, the furniture, the baristas! That’s what makes it possible to march up to a register in any Starbucks and proudly order a Grande mocha no whip skim latte without a blink! You feel supported by what you see and what people are doing in the space. It looks familiar. You are entering a No Risk Zone. It’s so familiar, Make Yourself at Home should appear on the door! In your writing classroom, the same can be true. It can be the one place in school where students, see the endless possibilities for growth. Support them through familiar landmarks. Plan thoughtfully for creating a third place environment, a place where students feel capable, comfortable and creative. These are the Third Place messages that appear in the Coffee Culture world.
In the Cafe Kulture…
Teachers adopt the term branding as well. What familiar sights and sounds can be part of your Café Kulture classroom?
Brand your classroom for Writing Success….
Design the space. Coffee houses are designed for movement and well as for comfort. Use the help of students to create the room arrangement, either before school starts or at any time of the school year. Students can draw up plans for physical arrangement of desks, bookcases. Treat this as a problem-solving piece. It’s often best to have the kids take ownership of the room. It will send a message of shared control of the kulture.
Display the words of writers. Use quotes and beautiful language that is found everywhere…charts, banners labels can surround the students . The message is clear. We value language and use it with intention in this classroom.
Use music to set moods. Research supports the use of music as an aid to thinking. You have your favorites, and open up the list to the students…give them control over what is played to help the thinking in the room during independent time…or even before a mini-lesson to jump start energy for thinking!
Provision occasionally with snacks and treats that make the time feel more social. Every Friday: Café Day. Bring your favorite snack to enjoy as you write.
Use verbal Anchors. In some coffee houses, you are asked to connect with the staff for a personal third place touch. You may be asked as you order to identify your favorite super hero…that’s how you are called when your coffee is prepared, for example “Latte for Wonderwoman!” In your classroom, use a verbal anchor to get kids to attend to the pace of work. When it’s time for a minilesson, say the VERY SAME thing each day…for example, teach them to respond to..”Let’s rock” and the kids must say back…”Rock on!” That’s a way to signal for attention…when Independent Writing follows… say, ”Let’s chill”, for example…kids say “Chillin!” Using verbal ques can focus and generate attention.
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
Increase your Listening Power in Your Organization
Listening is the premiere communication vehicle in any organization.
Yet it's dying a slow death on the vine in our modern business culture. Think of it. The information age has blessed us with the ability to impact an organization's direction in a heartbeat. But this same blessing of technology can be a true curse. Blackberries...text messages...IM's and emails often flood a system with chatter making organizational listening fairly impossible thanks to the technology of distraction.
How can todays's leaders fight the tide?
Never lose sight of your audience...even if he is 5,000 miles away on the end of a teleconference! Listening is about people. Boettinger(1975) created a management lens that may help leaders simplyfy their own attempts to make listening a valued by people in the organization again. His lens featured three views: Vision, Craft and Communication.
Vision and Listening
Know what you want in your organization. What will it look like when people begin to consciously choose to work on listening? Spent time seeing the difference in meetings you lead. How will you raise the awareness of the skill? Who can help you?
These are questions that can shape a vision for listening in the organization, a real vision,and not just lip service. Spend time creating a listening time line. It might be your own personal time line. Then reflect on what the organizational timeline for listening has been. A leader that does a simple audit which includes talking to the rank and file about listening in their own lives and in their business day is building the begining of a vision that may at first be part of the oral culture. Shaping the vision into a written tenet shows all that listening is not taken for granted, and it is certainly held in high regard through thoughts and action!
Crafting Listening
Now that there is awareness, begin the process of becoming resilient listeners. Address skills of pausing and paraphrasing in your own listening life. Be aware of how your emotions set the course for your listening in meetings, and demonstrate this for your colleagues. When fsced with conflict or a difficult conversation in a meeting, learn to question rather then react. Saying in an approachable voice, "So, tell me more about your impression of my thinking...", can open the door to listening when you seem to be at a stand-off in a meeting. Pause before you respond and paraphase even the most biting comment, and finally, try to draw your colleagues into thinking bigger, even without tension by asking open-ended questions like..." "What hunches do you have about the response we have received from our clients to date?"
Communicate Listening Power
Elevate the cause of listening in as many ways as possible. Choose anvenues and forums for the language of listening to be advanced. The three P's of Listening: Pause, Paraphrase and Probe can become banners for e-zines and newsletters. In one to one meetings, set the intention to listen as a goal between the two parties, direct managers to set this as a goal for review, but allow training to weave the culture of listening together before evaluating listening performance.
Just remember...research says that the teleconference you are usually involved in is a garden of multitasking: people check emails, sort messages, or write a memo as they "listen". So how can listening flourish when the vines of technology wrap themselves around our conversation to the point of distraction?
The savvy leader becomes a conscious gardener who knows the right balance of information and exchange, and who can, with careful pruning. polish up the garden of communication through purposeful listening in an organization.
Yet it's dying a slow death on the vine in our modern business culture. Think of it. The information age has blessed us with the ability to impact an organization's direction in a heartbeat. But this same blessing of technology can be a true curse. Blackberries...text messages...IM's and emails often flood a system with chatter making organizational listening fairly impossible thanks to the technology of distraction.
How can todays's leaders fight the tide?
Never lose sight of your audience...even if he is 5,000 miles away on the end of a teleconference! Listening is about people. Boettinger(1975) created a management lens that may help leaders simplyfy their own attempts to make listening a valued by people in the organization again. His lens featured three views: Vision, Craft and Communication.
Vision and Listening
Know what you want in your organization. What will it look like when people begin to consciously choose to work on listening? Spent time seeing the difference in meetings you lead. How will you raise the awareness of the skill? Who can help you?
These are questions that can shape a vision for listening in the organization, a real vision,and not just lip service. Spend time creating a listening time line. It might be your own personal time line. Then reflect on what the organizational timeline for listening has been. A leader that does a simple audit which includes talking to the rank and file about listening in their own lives and in their business day is building the begining of a vision that may at first be part of the oral culture. Shaping the vision into a written tenet shows all that listening is not taken for granted, and it is certainly held in high regard through thoughts and action!
Crafting Listening
Now that there is awareness, begin the process of becoming resilient listeners. Address skills of pausing and paraphrasing in your own listening life. Be aware of how your emotions set the course for your listening in meetings, and demonstrate this for your colleagues. When fsced with conflict or a difficult conversation in a meeting, learn to question rather then react. Saying in an approachable voice, "So, tell me more about your impression of my thinking...", can open the door to listening when you seem to be at a stand-off in a meeting. Pause before you respond and paraphase even the most biting comment, and finally, try to draw your colleagues into thinking bigger, even without tension by asking open-ended questions like..." "What hunches do you have about the response we have received from our clients to date?"
Communicate Listening Power
Elevate the cause of listening in as many ways as possible. Choose anvenues and forums for the language of listening to be advanced. The three P's of Listening: Pause, Paraphrase and Probe can become banners for e-zines and newsletters. In one to one meetings, set the intention to listen as a goal between the two parties, direct managers to set this as a goal for review, but allow training to weave the culture of listening together before evaluating listening performance.
Just remember...research says that the teleconference you are usually involved in is a garden of multitasking: people check emails, sort messages, or write a memo as they "listen". So how can listening flourish when the vines of technology wrap themselves around our conversation to the point of distraction?
The savvy leader becomes a conscious gardener who knows the right balance of information and exchange, and who can, with careful pruning. polish up the garden of communication through purposeful listening in an organization.
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Charging the Writer's Workshop Battery through LIstening!
" There is real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment." Norman Vincent Peale
I wish I had said that. Because I live it.
Living life in the writing classroom is an enthusiastic dance... really, a dance marathon, since the teacher constantly supports the interest and momentum of students with a dynamic culture that,as Katie Wood Ray writes..."hums."
SO how to avoid the dull days of February when Writer's Workshop is no longer new. That's a challenge to teachers and students. Here's a few entusiastic tips that have kept the dazzle in my workshop dance, and they surround the idea of Listening, which is the key to connection and motivation!
Take a Vakay
Take a break from writer's workshop...and substitute a study of listening. Challenge students to bring in cd's, tapes, published.. and their own recordings. Listen to the sounds of the world..birds, oceans...jackhammers! Follow up the listening with lists of connections..no writing just ideas. Make charts that will be used when the workshop convenes again....share stories with partners about connection made to the sounds, record the connections in a notebook for further writing when workshops begins again!
Musical Moments
Listen to favorite songs...but anyone who chooses a song to play for the class must have the lyrics to distribute. The student leads the study of the lyrics. Students sing along then "unpack" the lyrics! Groups may be formed to create new verses of songs!
Blinded by the Light
Break groups into 3's...have one person in the group blindfolded. Teacher plays soundtrack themed recordings of movies or tv shows. One person write his impressions as the music plays, what connections is that student making? Stopping occasionally, a recorder in the group writes connections that the blindfolded person is making. Then compare images...does the blindfolded person's list differ from the sighted person's written images?
Hollywood Swingers
Find pieces of a few scripts the students would enjoy. In groups, ask students to stage the scripts as short radio programs for the whole class. When staged, the presenting group works at the back of the room so students need to LISTEN to the mini-play. Their backs are to the players!
After presenting a few of these LISTENING Challenges...break out the writers notebooks...and the workshop may not just hum...it may ROAR into a new level of motivation!
I wish I had said that. Because I live it.
Living life in the writing classroom is an enthusiastic dance... really, a dance marathon, since the teacher constantly supports the interest and momentum of students with a dynamic culture that,as Katie Wood Ray writes..."hums."
SO how to avoid the dull days of February when Writer's Workshop is no longer new. That's a challenge to teachers and students. Here's a few entusiastic tips that have kept the dazzle in my workshop dance, and they surround the idea of Listening, which is the key to connection and motivation!
Take a Vakay
Take a break from writer's workshop...and substitute a study of listening. Challenge students to bring in cd's, tapes, published.. and their own recordings. Listen to the sounds of the world..birds, oceans...jackhammers! Follow up the listening with lists of connections..no writing just ideas. Make charts that will be used when the workshop convenes again....share stories with partners about connection made to the sounds, record the connections in a notebook for further writing when workshops begins again!
Musical Moments
Listen to favorite songs...but anyone who chooses a song to play for the class must have the lyrics to distribute. The student leads the study of the lyrics. Students sing along then "unpack" the lyrics! Groups may be formed to create new verses of songs!
Blinded by the Light
Break groups into 3's...have one person in the group blindfolded. Teacher plays soundtrack themed recordings of movies or tv shows. One person write his impressions as the music plays, what connections is that student making? Stopping occasionally, a recorder in the group writes connections that the blindfolded person is making. Then compare images...does the blindfolded person's list differ from the sighted person's written images?
Hollywood Swingers
Find pieces of a few scripts the students would enjoy. In groups, ask students to stage the scripts as short radio programs for the whole class. When staged, the presenting group works at the back of the room so students need to LISTEN to the mini-play. Their backs are to the players!
After presenting a few of these LISTENING Challenges...break out the writers notebooks...and the workshop may not just hum...it may ROAR into a new level of motivation!
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